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Are there any benefits to being a NCP?
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Custody battles of teenagers is almost moot considering at age 16, they are free to withdraw from parent or parental control. I think I would save myself grief and take the high road and accommodate their choices physically and financially. If they choose to live with the other parent, so be it.
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No, there are no benefits to being and NCP. As you can tell from most of the posts which either evaded your question, or tried to make light of it, there are none. And, for your own information, almost all of the fathers posting here do have custody, or at least shared custody, of their children. So their prespective, from a male NCP like you, is very different.
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Hello Sad Dad,
I am not of the male NCP department so maybe a female view would be of assistance. As you can read from some of my older posts, my boys went to live with thier Dad when I hit some serious financial difficulties. Although the decision was very difficult to make, I had to take into consideration what was best for the boys. Why not live with Dad, he loves them just as much as I do.
Teenagers, as Im sure you've discovered, are, well Teenagers. They are discovering a little more freedom, expressing themselves and basically trying to defy thier parental units. My boys, didnt spend much time at either my X's or my house during that period. So if you can, dont waste your hard earned money on legal fees.
I cant tell you want is right for you, but you mustnt look at being a NCP as shameful. There is no shame being a NCP or paying for your childrens upbringing! Just be the better person and look past all the crap. The kids will love you more for that than anything else, that I can attest to!!
Good luck Sad Dad and look forward to your Christmas time with your children.
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Originally posted by got2bkid View PostNo, there are no benefits to being and NCP. As you can tell from most of the posts which either evaded your question, or tried to make light of it, there are none. And, for your own information, almost all of the fathers posting here do have custody, or at least shared custody, of their children. So their prespective, from a male NCP like you, is very different.
There are silver linings to both the CP and NCP clouds, if you get your head out of your ass and look for them
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