I've posted about having problems with dropping off our children for access sometime ago and some of you might be familiar with some of the challenges that I have had in this.
Well, the situation was escalated to an even higher level of conflict this evening.
I arrived with the children to drop off the children. As per regular practice we pull into the drive way and honked the horn to let the grandparents know that we are here and that one of them should come out and escort the children to the home. (This has been the practice for the past two years with the exception of the last two months when they were on vacation)
Anyway, no one comes out and I call the home only to find my ex answering the phone. He informs me that HE will be coming out to escort the children. Not wanting to be subjected to any verbal abuse, I insist his parents should come out. Last week his father had come out to help. The drop off took no more then three minutes and it was easier on the children because they do not have to witness any yelling by dad. The grandfather is just happy to see the kids and focus is on them, as it should be.
Anyway, not wanting to get involved in any confrontation this evening, I pull out of the drive way and onto the road. EX runs out and plants himself in front of the vehicle, refusing to let me drive. Grandfather comes out to assist but is told by my ex to return to the house and not answer the phone. I ask the ex if I can simply pull up at the front of the house, and have the children walk up the steps, without me leaving the vehicle. He refuses to consider this, and insists that I need to pull up back in the drive way and hand him the children personally.
The standoff continues with the children witnessing all this. Ex calls the police and an hour later they arrive. The police arrive and want to talk to me first. Ex gets really pissed off with them, and starts yelling "well, it was me who called you, not her."
Anyway the long and short of it was the children were dropped off. I was allowed to leave immediately, but encouraged to get a court order that actually spells out the need for a third party so that we can avoid this situation in the future.
Back in court on June 10th for a trial management conference. My question is this, should I return to court asap for an emergency motion on the necessity of a third party for exchanges or should I wait until June 10th? What can I do in the meantime? I've suggested just about everything to the ex including picking the children up from the daycare so I am not involved at all, and more recently, that a third party, namely his mother who acted as third party for the past two years should continue. But we've had no response to either proposal.
Well, the situation was escalated to an even higher level of conflict this evening.
I arrived with the children to drop off the children. As per regular practice we pull into the drive way and honked the horn to let the grandparents know that we are here and that one of them should come out and escort the children to the home. (This has been the practice for the past two years with the exception of the last two months when they were on vacation)
Anyway, no one comes out and I call the home only to find my ex answering the phone. He informs me that HE will be coming out to escort the children. Not wanting to be subjected to any verbal abuse, I insist his parents should come out. Last week his father had come out to help. The drop off took no more then three minutes and it was easier on the children because they do not have to witness any yelling by dad. The grandfather is just happy to see the kids and focus is on them, as it should be.
Anyway, not wanting to get involved in any confrontation this evening, I pull out of the drive way and onto the road. EX runs out and plants himself in front of the vehicle, refusing to let me drive. Grandfather comes out to assist but is told by my ex to return to the house and not answer the phone. I ask the ex if I can simply pull up at the front of the house, and have the children walk up the steps, without me leaving the vehicle. He refuses to consider this, and insists that I need to pull up back in the drive way and hand him the children personally.
The standoff continues with the children witnessing all this. Ex calls the police and an hour later they arrive. The police arrive and want to talk to me first. Ex gets really pissed off with them, and starts yelling "well, it was me who called you, not her."
Anyway the long and short of it was the children were dropped off. I was allowed to leave immediately, but encouraged to get a court order that actually spells out the need for a third party so that we can avoid this situation in the future.
Back in court on June 10th for a trial management conference. My question is this, should I return to court asap for an emergency motion on the necessity of a third party for exchanges or should I wait until June 10th? What can I do in the meantime? I've suggested just about everything to the ex including picking the children up from the daycare so I am not involved at all, and more recently, that a third party, namely his mother who acted as third party for the past two years should continue. But we've had no response to either proposal.
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