If you're in a 50/50 parenting situation, do you tell the other parent when your going to be out of town? Do you tell the other parent when you're taking the kidlet(s) out of town during your parenting time?
I usually do - if I'm traveling when I don't have D8 I send a quick email saying "FYI I will be in XXX until Thursday - here's a backup contact number in case of emergency". If I'm taking D8 somewhere, I also inform the ex "FYI D8 and I are going to YYY, we'll be back on Friday and here's where we'll be".
Ex doesn't do this - if he leaves town when I have D8, he doesn't inform me, and when he's taking D8 out of town on his week, he doesn't tell me when or where (e.g. negotiating some schedule changes today, he wants to pick up D8 a day early because they're "flying out" for a week's vacation somewhere the next day).
I know he's not required to account to me for how he uses his parenting time and there is nothing in our divorce order addressing this, but it does make me nervous to have no idea where D8 is. Ex is generally a responsible parent and I don't have realistic fears that anything will go off the rails when he has D8, but it just feels unsettling to me as a parent. That's why I provide him with my own travel info, whether or not he wants it.
So should I
a) just live with feeling a bit nervous and unsettled, and figure this is part of the deal with 50/50 parenting - as long as D8 is with her father, that's all I'm entitled to know?
b) ask the ex where he's going, and risk him having a fit about his "privacy"?
c) something else?
How do other people handle this?
I usually do - if I'm traveling when I don't have D8 I send a quick email saying "FYI I will be in XXX until Thursday - here's a backup contact number in case of emergency". If I'm taking D8 somewhere, I also inform the ex "FYI D8 and I are going to YYY, we'll be back on Friday and here's where we'll be".
Ex doesn't do this - if he leaves town when I have D8, he doesn't inform me, and when he's taking D8 out of town on his week, he doesn't tell me when or where (e.g. negotiating some schedule changes today, he wants to pick up D8 a day early because they're "flying out" for a week's vacation somewhere the next day).
I know he's not required to account to me for how he uses his parenting time and there is nothing in our divorce order addressing this, but it does make me nervous to have no idea where D8 is. Ex is generally a responsible parent and I don't have realistic fears that anything will go off the rails when he has D8, but it just feels unsettling to me as a parent. That's why I provide him with my own travel info, whether or not he wants it.
So should I
a) just live with feeling a bit nervous and unsettled, and figure this is part of the deal with 50/50 parenting - as long as D8 is with her father, that's all I'm entitled to know?
b) ask the ex where he's going, and risk him having a fit about his "privacy"?
c) something else?
How do other people handle this?
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