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Old 08-25-2020, 10:06 AM
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Can someone explain what an access motion is? I am getting threats of my ex going to pull one but logically it doesnt make sense. He sees the kid when he can. Never have I stopped him but now because he wants a very weird schedule that I suspect is due to litigation reasons and I am disagreeing he is harassing me again and really inflating my legal bills on simple issues. Again hes been pulling motions for over 4 months now so that I take with a grain of salt as well...
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Old 08-25-2020, 10:57 AM
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So let him file a motion. You gave him options and he refused them. Tell your lawyer to ignore anything but a motion.
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Old 08-25-2020, 11:33 AM
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But if he pulls an unreasonable motion I would have to respond and it would cost money. In this regard would I be eligible to have my costs refunded. It seems so silly I need to pay for all of this for his anger.
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Old 08-25-2020, 11:45 AM
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Dont hold your breath on getting any costs back anytime soon. The case conference judges will just say costs are reserved which means nobody gets costs unless the matter goes to trial. I have been litigating for going on ten years now. Just last year for the first time I was awarded costs on a specific motion. The reason costs were awarded was because it involved my ex committing fraud and hiding assets. I was lucky to get costs but even then I did not get awarded 100% of my costs, only a portion. You just started on the litigation nightmare train, so dont even think youre going to get costs at this point.
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Old 08-25-2020, 01:56 PM
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Call his bluff. He is trying to bully you into what he wants. Let him file a motion and go from there. You will need to see a judge at some point.
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Old 08-25-2020, 03:59 PM
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My ex was abusive and after leaving him he found new ways to abuse me and that's legal abuse. Since March when this all began, his lawyer has been CONSTANTLY writing to my lawyer about nonsense. He has applied to two urgent motions and got denied before being offered a case conference. We got that done and he decided to apply for an urgent motion a third time (as you mentioned we have to reply to everything regardless which incurs my legal fees). when he got denied the third time, the judge told me that I am entitled to costs but he wants to give a chance for my ex to start paying me 250$ a month in child support and if he doesn't by XXXXX date then I can file my costs. SURPRISE! He didn't pay any child support so we applied for costs. His lawyer replied saying that I should get nothing. Judge came back in my favour and awarded me 80% of costs. Just to let you know it's been almost 6 months of this and I've spent 13 thousand dollars. Mainly on responding to his court applications and e-mails
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Old 08-25-2020, 10:10 PM
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Sunshine20, try spending almost 10 years and close to $400,000. My ex was an abusive brain damaged alcoholic who unfortunately got a bundle of money in a personal injury settlement during our marriage. Its criminal that the judges have allowed him to keep this going for so long. What really pissed him off was the three times I went self rep and that cost him a fortune in legal fees and me nothing. He is still livid that the judge recently made a costs award against him in my favour.
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Define a “weird” schedule. Sounds like he’s trying to be more involved, but in the wrong manner. He should be able to have a chat with you instead of court threats.
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Old 09-21-2020, 11:39 PM
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So he currently has every other weekend for the distance and splitting the holidays.
Now he wants to have a schedule for one week a month before our kid starts kindergarten. But he doesn’t want every month either. He wants specific months and Christmas and one weekend a month for the other ones. Essentially I feel he wants to use his vacation and then reduce his access but wants free reign of when to see the child. Honestly it seems very selfish to me. He has all this access and doesn’t use it and then wants more larger chunks of time for his convenience. He is in Montreal and I’m in Oakville.
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Old 09-22-2020, 09:25 AM
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So put in the agreement that he must provide his designated weeks by January 1 every year and also provide notice 48 hours in advance should he need to cancel that months week. Make up time will be determined by each party in the best interest of the child and considering all parties schedules.

Most places require you to book off your time in advance and if he has a child he should be determining what weeks work well in advance.
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