So I have tried searching for this info on this site and can't seem to find anything.
It is a bit complicated, so hopefully I will explain this properly, I am really hoping for some solid advice to make sure the most fair/legal solution is concluded. Keep in mind this is one side of the story, I realize that and am trying to be as honest as possible.
Scenario:
Son lives with mother full time since age 11. Father had extremely close relationship with son until he was posted, he had him about 80-85% of the time. Bitter custody battle, son wanted to move with dad, it was decided son would stay with mom. At that point the relationship between father and son started to deteriorate. Mother would manipulate son to turn him against dad, long history.
Skip to 6 years later, son refuses to talk to father, has not gotten on two purchased flights to see father. Have offered to pay for counseling for son, hoping to help him process whatever is going on, allow him to tell dad why he is so upset, always refused. The mother just states it is normal kid stuff, he will come "around".
Dad is always excluded from any and all major decisions (even though court order specifies those decisions should be discussed together). Dad was just told this month that son applied to colleges/universities. Ex emailed dad three days ago saying his son accepted an offer for school. Then said he needs $4,100 for residency by 1 July and is he going to help pay that. The dad has been told for the last six years that school was covered entirely because son has aboriginal status, the band he belongs to is rather large and has more resources, IF he is approved, he will have all residence/education/books/living expenses/two trips home per year, paid for. Was also told he applied for student loan, and his grant should be substantial, son has also applied to bursary/grants, etc (won't know for a bit if he gets any), dad was told. Son also just got a cheque from Canada Pension Disability this month for over $5,500 and will continue to get a monthly cheque while in school full time.
So here is my question. Dad's last payment for CS was to end in June. Ex got mad because dad asked why son would need help with school if it ends up being covered, which won't be known right away? She would not answer questions as to proof of costs versus entitlements, etc. And is now saying she has applied to have the CS reinstated after June, current court order ends in June. Son's crse runs from Sep to Jun, two years. So dad is not sure what should fairly be expected to pay for cs/school. Son won't be living at home for 10 months out of the year, dad has no idea what is being covered for his education. Does anybody have any experience, or can anybody think of case law that dad can review?
I would appreciate constructive criticism, or actual experience. Dad is dealing with a very high conflict ex and she is a huge trigger for him, he has PTSD, so if anybody has any advice how to keep this from blowing up further that would be great.
It is a bit complicated, so hopefully I will explain this properly, I am really hoping for some solid advice to make sure the most fair/legal solution is concluded. Keep in mind this is one side of the story, I realize that and am trying to be as honest as possible.
Scenario:
Son lives with mother full time since age 11. Father had extremely close relationship with son until he was posted, he had him about 80-85% of the time. Bitter custody battle, son wanted to move with dad, it was decided son would stay with mom. At that point the relationship between father and son started to deteriorate. Mother would manipulate son to turn him against dad, long history.
Skip to 6 years later, son refuses to talk to father, has not gotten on two purchased flights to see father. Have offered to pay for counseling for son, hoping to help him process whatever is going on, allow him to tell dad why he is so upset, always refused. The mother just states it is normal kid stuff, he will come "around".
Dad is always excluded from any and all major decisions (even though court order specifies those decisions should be discussed together). Dad was just told this month that son applied to colleges/universities. Ex emailed dad three days ago saying his son accepted an offer for school. Then said he needs $4,100 for residency by 1 July and is he going to help pay that. The dad has been told for the last six years that school was covered entirely because son has aboriginal status, the band he belongs to is rather large and has more resources, IF he is approved, he will have all residence/education/books/living expenses/two trips home per year, paid for. Was also told he applied for student loan, and his grant should be substantial, son has also applied to bursary/grants, etc (won't know for a bit if he gets any), dad was told. Son also just got a cheque from Canada Pension Disability this month for over $5,500 and will continue to get a monthly cheque while in school full time.
So here is my question. Dad's last payment for CS was to end in June. Ex got mad because dad asked why son would need help with school if it ends up being covered, which won't be known right away? She would not answer questions as to proof of costs versus entitlements, etc. And is now saying she has applied to have the CS reinstated after June, current court order ends in June. Son's crse runs from Sep to Jun, two years. So dad is not sure what should fairly be expected to pay for cs/school. Son won't be living at home for 10 months out of the year, dad has no idea what is being covered for his education. Does anybody have any experience, or can anybody think of case law that dad can review?
I would appreciate constructive criticism, or actual experience. Dad is dealing with a very high conflict ex and she is a huge trigger for him, he has PTSD, so if anybody has any advice how to keep this from blowing up further that would be great.
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