Then maybe you need to sit down with your daughter and ask her what she wants to do/be. Then talk about making that happen. She is probably in a difficult position living in that house catering to her mother. And when she tells you, you email your ex and you tell her IN WRITING that you both owe it to your daughter to help her achieve her dreams. That working together fairly and with her interests in mind will go far. Your ex sounds content to pull the poor me card because shes got days to herself, free child care and free money. She isnt being fair to her kids either. Maybe your daughter likes it because she doesnt have to have a job or maybe shes being controlled by her mother. Either way you are paying what you dont owe and being treated like the bad guy for saying something about it. Talk to your daughter too and see if there is a way to get through to her. If there isnt then she will need to figure it out on her own.
Some people are content to be the victim and let everyone else think they are the reason their life sucks. At some point we all have to grow up and realize we are the ones in charge of our decisions and if we continue to make bad ones, we suffer. Your ex is hurting her kids as a result and you could possibly be the catalyst that your daughter needs to change her life for the better.
Some people are content to be the victim and let everyone else think they are the reason their life sucks. At some point we all have to grow up and realize we are the ones in charge of our decisions and if we continue to make bad ones, we suffer. Your ex is hurting her kids as a result and you could possibly be the catalyst that your daughter needs to change her life for the better.
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