Short story short... Child and I had amazing close relationship. Mom started bad mouthing me to child.. child started thinking I was bad and mom was good. I commennced motion to change, got OCL appointed and they found out mom and family disparaging me to the point child had nothing good to say about me - just daddy is bad. They recommended expanded access and re integeration.
I've won 50.50 access (2.2.5.5) and joint custody and looking into re integeration now. It is all in a final court order.
Issue is, I am sometimes faced with power struggles with child. Same ones teachers have noticed and mom has mentioned in some documents to 3rd parties she has noticed Too. Child is very defensive and resistant and defiant at times. It has gotten to the point that child will just walk away and avoid me and label me as the bad parent when I set limits and give out negative consequences for bad behaviour. Such as banning video games or YouTube for the day. Then I am the bad person who is always mean.
I am also worried in re integeration child and mom will say there is no bad mouthing and issue is with my parenting.
I have read the books and taken parenting courses , and will be taking some counselling but am wanting to hear from you folks if I need to do anything differently and what to do moving forward. It seems child's experiences with me are bad because she is getting in trouble a lot - and from child's perspective always mean to and yelled at, and "treated like garbage". I still take her to do fun stuff together and that seems to help rebuild the relationship and trust for a bit. This includes skiing skating and visiting with her cousins. But comes next day and child is staying up late to watch YouTube and I say time up bed time - I am mean for not letting her stay up another 25 minutes to finish her video.
Child is 9.5 and girl. My biggest concern is being one of those dad's who has bad relationship with their daughter. Especially concerning as child gets closer to age of 12.
I've won 50.50 access (2.2.5.5) and joint custody and looking into re integeration now. It is all in a final court order.
Issue is, I am sometimes faced with power struggles with child. Same ones teachers have noticed and mom has mentioned in some documents to 3rd parties she has noticed Too. Child is very defensive and resistant and defiant at times. It has gotten to the point that child will just walk away and avoid me and label me as the bad parent when I set limits and give out negative consequences for bad behaviour. Such as banning video games or YouTube for the day. Then I am the bad person who is always mean.
I am also worried in re integeration child and mom will say there is no bad mouthing and issue is with my parenting.
I have read the books and taken parenting courses , and will be taking some counselling but am wanting to hear from you folks if I need to do anything differently and what to do moving forward. It seems child's experiences with me are bad because she is getting in trouble a lot - and from child's perspective always mean to and yelled at, and "treated like garbage". I still take her to do fun stuff together and that seems to help rebuild the relationship and trust for a bit. This includes skiing skating and visiting with her cousins. But comes next day and child is staying up late to watch YouTube and I say time up bed time - I am mean for not letting her stay up another 25 minutes to finish her video.
Child is 9.5 and girl. My biggest concern is being one of those dad's who has bad relationship with their daughter. Especially concerning as child gets closer to age of 12.
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