My ex husband and I have been separated for almost 6 years.
We have 4 daughters together, the 2 youngest children are 12 and 10 years old.we have a separation agreement and court order determining custody and access. the 2 older girls are grown women
I have custody of the girls, my ex husband has access to the girl EOW from Saturday mornings at 10:00 until Sundays at 4:00. He has christmas access from december 25th at noon until December 30th.He is to call them Mondays, Wednesdays and Friday's at 7:00pm
There is also a court order in place stating the girls are allowed to have their cell phones with them.
It specifically states the girls are allowed to text or call their mother of they wish to do so. If he takes their cell phones then the girls must be returned to their mother immediately. (this order was brought in due to ex husband repeatedly smashing the girls phones if he felt like it)
The girls went to their fathers on December 25th, I received a message from the 12 year old that her tooth was hurting(she received a medicated filling 3 weeks ago, the dentist said its common for it to hurt occasionally if it hurts give her Advil)
I told her via text message to take 2 of the Advil I'd sent with her. She replied I can't daddy took them. He has them.
I messaged my ex asking him to please give her 2 of the tablets to ease the discomfort. He replied NO!! He told her to put sensodyne tooth paste on it. He said don't message me again with this effing BS.
I Respected his wishes
On Monday December 27, the 10 year old called me to say goodnight.
We chatted for a few minutes,then her father entered the bedroom.
He screamed to get the F*** off the phone and go brush her teeth, she replied I will do it in a minute daddy I'm just saying goodnight to mommy.
He said "you ungrateful little bitch, you'd rather talk to your stupid effing mother than do what I tell you!! You deserve to be in pain and have rotten teeth, you make me effing sick you worthless piece of sh**!!
I could hear the 12 year old yelling daddy leave her alone. He called them both bitches and left the room slamming the door behind him.
The only sound was the 10 year old sobbing. I told her it'd be ok just to try to calm down. The 12 year old got on the bed with her and hugged her.
I did manage to calm her down, then I got off the phone with her.
I called the FCS emergency number, they said unless he physically hit her we aren't able to do anything, they said reassure her that daddy loves her and he's just upset.
I messaged her exactly that, that daddy was just upset it's ok. That your daddy loves you.
She didn't reply.
I tried calling him to find out what was going on, but he has call display and wouldn't answer.
I spoke to the 10 year old the next morning, she was sobbing begging me to come for her.
I said its daddy's time with you I'm sure you'll do something super fun.
He freaked out on both girls again Wednesday, as their room had presents scattered around it. Basically the same thing again as Monday.
The girls straightened the room up to avoid further conflict and I got begged to come for her.
Thursday morning he freaked on his girlfriend, and the girls again.
He loaded the girls into his truck with all their things.
The 10 year old is asthmatic, she keeps an inhaler on hand at all times.
With complete disregard to her health he was smoking with them in the vehicle.
The 10 year old asked him to not smoke he said if you don't like it roll down the effing window.
Both girls messaged "mommy we're scared please help us"
I called OPP, they met him at the house he was taking the girls to, the girls both told the sergeant they were scared they wanted to come home.
I received a call from the officer asking if I could come for them immediately.
Since an hour away, I said yes I will be there as soon as possible.
I brought the girls home yesterday. They're terrified
The 10 year old fell asleep in my arms last night sobbing.
His next scheduled access is January 7th.
What would any of you do?
Any comments appreciated.
Thank you
We have 4 daughters together, the 2 youngest children are 12 and 10 years old.we have a separation agreement and court order determining custody and access. the 2 older girls are grown women
I have custody of the girls, my ex husband has access to the girl EOW from Saturday mornings at 10:00 until Sundays at 4:00. He has christmas access from december 25th at noon until December 30th.He is to call them Mondays, Wednesdays and Friday's at 7:00pm
There is also a court order in place stating the girls are allowed to have their cell phones with them.
It specifically states the girls are allowed to text or call their mother of they wish to do so. If he takes their cell phones then the girls must be returned to their mother immediately. (this order was brought in due to ex husband repeatedly smashing the girls phones if he felt like it)
The girls went to their fathers on December 25th, I received a message from the 12 year old that her tooth was hurting(she received a medicated filling 3 weeks ago, the dentist said its common for it to hurt occasionally if it hurts give her Advil)
I told her via text message to take 2 of the Advil I'd sent with her. She replied I can't daddy took them. He has them.
I messaged my ex asking him to please give her 2 of the tablets to ease the discomfort. He replied NO!! He told her to put sensodyne tooth paste on it. He said don't message me again with this effing BS.
I Respected his wishes
On Monday December 27, the 10 year old called me to say goodnight.
We chatted for a few minutes,then her father entered the bedroom.
He screamed to get the F*** off the phone and go brush her teeth, she replied I will do it in a minute daddy I'm just saying goodnight to mommy.
He said "you ungrateful little bitch, you'd rather talk to your stupid effing mother than do what I tell you!! You deserve to be in pain and have rotten teeth, you make me effing sick you worthless piece of sh**!!
I could hear the 12 year old yelling daddy leave her alone. He called them both bitches and left the room slamming the door behind him.
The only sound was the 10 year old sobbing. I told her it'd be ok just to try to calm down. The 12 year old got on the bed with her and hugged her.
I did manage to calm her down, then I got off the phone with her.
I called the FCS emergency number, they said unless he physically hit her we aren't able to do anything, they said reassure her that daddy loves her and he's just upset.
I messaged her exactly that, that daddy was just upset it's ok. That your daddy loves you.
She didn't reply.
I tried calling him to find out what was going on, but he has call display and wouldn't answer.
I spoke to the 10 year old the next morning, she was sobbing begging me to come for her.
I said its daddy's time with you I'm sure you'll do something super fun.
He freaked out on both girls again Wednesday, as their room had presents scattered around it. Basically the same thing again as Monday.
The girls straightened the room up to avoid further conflict and I got begged to come for her.
Thursday morning he freaked on his girlfriend, and the girls again.
He loaded the girls into his truck with all their things.
The 10 year old is asthmatic, she keeps an inhaler on hand at all times.
With complete disregard to her health he was smoking with them in the vehicle.
The 10 year old asked him to not smoke he said if you don't like it roll down the effing window.
Both girls messaged "mommy we're scared please help us"
I called OPP, they met him at the house he was taking the girls to, the girls both told the sergeant they were scared they wanted to come home.
I received a call from the officer asking if I could come for them immediately.
Since an hour away, I said yes I will be there as soon as possible.
I brought the girls home yesterday. They're terrified
The 10 year old fell asleep in my arms last night sobbing.
His next scheduled access is January 7th.
What would any of you do?
Any comments appreciated.
Thank you
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