50/50 access, joint custody arrangement through a signed order from a judge. 2 children 11 and 4.
My ex wife has repeatedly been telling the kids bad things about me for over a year now. Examples of things said are, "Your father is a drunk", "your dad beat me", "your father is a homosexual", etc etc...it's been going on for far too long.
The reason for our split was because my wife was sleeping with a friend of mine. They broke up once because her and I were trying to reconcile. This really pissed off the other guy and now they are back together and he is talking negatively about me to my kids as a way to get back at me. He tells my oldest that "he's going to kick my ass", "your dad hits women", "your dad secretly likes men".
It's disgusting! My kids are 11 and 4! I have taken the high road all this time but it is seriously killing me that my kids are having to hear this kind of crap. Thankfully my oldest has the common sense to know that they are lying to him.
Recently my oldest and I had a talk and he expressed to me that he is tired of the way his mother talks about me. He also said that when he doesn't agree with her about these things she becomes angry and punishes him. He stated that recently she has started slapping him in the face and screaming at him and generally becoming too aggressive. The last thing he told me before going to bed was that his mother has been trying to get him to lie to his counsellor about being physically abused at my hands. So far he hasn't told the counsellor anything but he is afraid that if he doesn't he will receive more punishment from his mother. After I heard that we have had several very long talks about how wrong it is to lie about other people in such a way.
How do I go about addressing the abuse and how do I protect myself in the event that false allegations are shared with the counsellor. I have never abused my children and the fact of the matter is that she is the one doing this.
My son asked if we could call his mother on the phone together so that he could address the issues with her but I don't know if that is the best route to take. I have major concerns with my kids being hit and I'm seriously thinking that a call to CAS is necessary although, after speaking to them last year (regarding alienation), I don't think they will find this serious enough.
Any ideas are welcome.
My ex wife has repeatedly been telling the kids bad things about me for over a year now. Examples of things said are, "Your father is a drunk", "your dad beat me", "your father is a homosexual", etc etc...it's been going on for far too long.
The reason for our split was because my wife was sleeping with a friend of mine. They broke up once because her and I were trying to reconcile. This really pissed off the other guy and now they are back together and he is talking negatively about me to my kids as a way to get back at me. He tells my oldest that "he's going to kick my ass", "your dad hits women", "your dad secretly likes men".
It's disgusting! My kids are 11 and 4! I have taken the high road all this time but it is seriously killing me that my kids are having to hear this kind of crap. Thankfully my oldest has the common sense to know that they are lying to him.
Recently my oldest and I had a talk and he expressed to me that he is tired of the way his mother talks about me. He also said that when he doesn't agree with her about these things she becomes angry and punishes him. He stated that recently she has started slapping him in the face and screaming at him and generally becoming too aggressive. The last thing he told me before going to bed was that his mother has been trying to get him to lie to his counsellor about being physically abused at my hands. So far he hasn't told the counsellor anything but he is afraid that if he doesn't he will receive more punishment from his mother. After I heard that we have had several very long talks about how wrong it is to lie about other people in such a way.
How do I go about addressing the abuse and how do I protect myself in the event that false allegations are shared with the counsellor. I have never abused my children and the fact of the matter is that she is the one doing this.
My son asked if we could call his mother on the phone together so that he could address the issues with her but I don't know if that is the best route to take. I have major concerns with my kids being hit and I'm seriously thinking that a call to CAS is necessary although, after speaking to them last year (regarding alienation), I don't think they will find this serious enough.
Any ideas are welcome.
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