The Reality:
D11 and D13 stopped coming home September 2017.
OCL report is complete and now filed with court. There are things I can do to make things easier for our daughters, with primary focus being on validating their feelings as things go along.
As for OP
"this writer is also concerned about [OP's] role in the children's estrangement from their father and fears that she has not been properly facilitating the girls relationship with him.....1. OP does not "protect' [MY] parenting time as she consistently makes plans during [MY] parenting time. 2. OP has drawn the children into the conflict when she has spoken to others about the situation in the presence of the children 3. expresses her own views of [ME] in the presence of the children 4. Direct messaging about the deficits of [ME] 5. OP's contradiction in actions; seemingly following through with the CAS family plan while at the same time filing for sole custody"
"The writer is left wondering if the children's current estrangement from their father is actually linked to [OP] emotional response to [ME]"
OP is now refusing to adopt the OCL recommendations which include counselling for us, her and an immediate and gradual re-integration of the children into their home here and back into the relationships with all of the family they are now cut off from.
In response to a letter of offer to settle at least the initial joint counselling (New Ways Family) and adopt the re-integrative schedule, OP has states that our daughter's don't want that, that hopefully that will change but to please forward my updated financials to update CS.
Last week one daughter came home for a couple of hours. This morning the other asked me to walk her to school. When we are together it feels so normal again. It being left up to this haphazard is horrible though. A couple of hours in a month is what we average where it's left up to them to 'decide' when to spend time. This, while OP drags her heels (which is hard to do with your head in the sand), saying it's all just about what the children want......but hey, keep up the payments.
Stellar
D11 and D13 stopped coming home September 2017.
OCL report is complete and now filed with court. There are things I can do to make things easier for our daughters, with primary focus being on validating their feelings as things go along.
As for OP
"this writer is also concerned about [OP's] role in the children's estrangement from their father and fears that she has not been properly facilitating the girls relationship with him.....1. OP does not "protect' [MY] parenting time as she consistently makes plans during [MY] parenting time. 2. OP has drawn the children into the conflict when she has spoken to others about the situation in the presence of the children 3. expresses her own views of [ME] in the presence of the children 4. Direct messaging about the deficits of [ME] 5. OP's contradiction in actions; seemingly following through with the CAS family plan while at the same time filing for sole custody"
"The writer is left wondering if the children's current estrangement from their father is actually linked to [OP] emotional response to [ME]"
OP is now refusing to adopt the OCL recommendations which include counselling for us, her and an immediate and gradual re-integration of the children into their home here and back into the relationships with all of the family they are now cut off from.
In response to a letter of offer to settle at least the initial joint counselling (New Ways Family) and adopt the re-integrative schedule, OP has states that our daughter's don't want that, that hopefully that will change but to please forward my updated financials to update CS.
Last week one daughter came home for a couple of hours. This morning the other asked me to walk her to school. When we are together it feels so normal again. It being left up to this haphazard is horrible though. A couple of hours in a month is what we average where it's left up to them to 'decide' when to spend time. This, while OP drags her heels (which is hard to do with your head in the sand), saying it's all just about what the children want......but hey, keep up the payments.
Stellar
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