Posting this situation...this time, regarding my S6.
It presents itself, from time, to time.
So lastnight, was my S6's night with me. He was at "Grandma's", so I had to pick him up there.
My D4 is with me.
While waiting for S6 to get his stuff together, and making chit-chat with the ex's in-laws over there, my D4 is being chatty, and mentions that she may have "puked" at some time, in the past week or so? I don't think she knew when this was, but was likely bringing up a past incident. For whatever reason, my kids think it's funny to talk about "puke" sometimes. D4 is fine, and has shown no signs of being sick. She continues to be fine.
Upon hearing this, the ex's mom-in-law (Grandma), gets very paranoid, and insists on calling the ex first, to see if she should release S6 into my care. "See if she wants him exposed...."
I told her, that is not necessary, as clearly D4 is fine, and we need to get going. She did not withold my S6, but you could tell she was not happy to release him to me now, and both "in-laws" kind of tried shaming me, on their doorstep, telling me how the flu is very contagious, and it would be a shame if S6 gets sick because of this. Because my D4 mentioned "puke".
The ex, and her side of family is very paranoid, when it comes to illness, and "germs", I find.
The funny thing is, my S6 has already been exposed to "germs", because that whole side of the family, including those "in-laws" has already had the flu. S6's mom, and step-dad, his little sister over there...the grandparents, the cousin he plays with all the time, everyone. My S6 has been lucky, in that he hasn't been sick yet. But everyone on her side, has been sick with the flu.
Anyway, I ended up leaving with S6 and D4.
This morning, ex sent email to my work, asking if D4 has the flu, and how she wished D4's Mom would have kept D4 instead of my having her, as responsible parents would not expose other kids to germs. I take that comment, probably was intended for me too, but she wasn't naming me. lol.
I simply replied to her, saying that D4 doesn't have the flu, and that nobody in our household has been ill. I also told her that S6 has already been exposed with everyone else being sick.
Of course, that did not register with her, and the emails continued with how "it's her right, to inquire about health..." and how she will believe her mom-in-law's take on things, before mine, and if S6 gets sick now, she's going to be mad, etc, etc.
How do you guys deal with this, when it comes up?
I don't want to paint this as a "denied parenting time" instance, although that is what Grandma's wish was, because it did not happen, and sometimes, the ex has asked me to take S6, if she gets a wiff of anyone being sick in their household. It's just a paranoia thing with them.
Their "parenting" style, is to try and seclude any kid who isn't sick yet, or secluding family members. Ex. one of them will go stay at another house, to try and avoid others in same household getting sick.
Forget the fact, that people have already been exposed, before symptoms start appearing, or that S6 is at a "germ party" everyday, when he's at school. lol.
It presents itself, from time, to time.
So lastnight, was my S6's night with me. He was at "Grandma's", so I had to pick him up there.
My D4 is with me.
While waiting for S6 to get his stuff together, and making chit-chat with the ex's in-laws over there, my D4 is being chatty, and mentions that she may have "puked" at some time, in the past week or so? I don't think she knew when this was, but was likely bringing up a past incident. For whatever reason, my kids think it's funny to talk about "puke" sometimes. D4 is fine, and has shown no signs of being sick. She continues to be fine.
Upon hearing this, the ex's mom-in-law (Grandma), gets very paranoid, and insists on calling the ex first, to see if she should release S6 into my care. "See if she wants him exposed...."
I told her, that is not necessary, as clearly D4 is fine, and we need to get going. She did not withold my S6, but you could tell she was not happy to release him to me now, and both "in-laws" kind of tried shaming me, on their doorstep, telling me how the flu is very contagious, and it would be a shame if S6 gets sick because of this. Because my D4 mentioned "puke".
The ex, and her side of family is very paranoid, when it comes to illness, and "germs", I find.
The funny thing is, my S6 has already been exposed to "germs", because that whole side of the family, including those "in-laws" has already had the flu. S6's mom, and step-dad, his little sister over there...the grandparents, the cousin he plays with all the time, everyone. My S6 has been lucky, in that he hasn't been sick yet. But everyone on her side, has been sick with the flu.
Anyway, I ended up leaving with S6 and D4.
This morning, ex sent email to my work, asking if D4 has the flu, and how she wished D4's Mom would have kept D4 instead of my having her, as responsible parents would not expose other kids to germs. I take that comment, probably was intended for me too, but she wasn't naming me. lol.
I simply replied to her, saying that D4 doesn't have the flu, and that nobody in our household has been ill. I also told her that S6 has already been exposed with everyone else being sick.
Of course, that did not register with her, and the emails continued with how "it's her right, to inquire about health..." and how she will believe her mom-in-law's take on things, before mine, and if S6 gets sick now, she's going to be mad, etc, etc.
How do you guys deal with this, when it comes up?
I don't want to paint this as a "denied parenting time" instance, although that is what Grandma's wish was, because it did not happen, and sometimes, the ex has asked me to take S6, if she gets a wiff of anyone being sick in their household. It's just a paranoia thing with them.
Their "parenting" style, is to try and seclude any kid who isn't sick yet, or secluding family members. Ex. one of them will go stay at another house, to try and avoid others in same household getting sick.
Forget the fact, that people have already been exposed, before symptoms start appearing, or that S6 is at a "germ party" everyday, when he's at school. lol.
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