If I had a dollar for all the horrible things my husbands ex said to him it would cover at least a few hours of his lawyers time.
I can understand the desire to stand up for yourself and defend your actions. The problem is you are dealing with someone who will never change and will never stop. In effect it is a losing battle. The moment you stop letting it get to you the better off you will be.
Plus when you tell someone to communicate in an alternative format or ignore them completely when they are making as ask, you give them reason to make a decision without consultation.
Read the communication, take out the ask and respond only to that.
For instance:
You are an abusive jerk. You ruined my life. Everyone else agrees you are awful. I hate you so much it hurts. The kids want to take skating lessons at $500 a season of which your share is $200. I hope you dying in a fiery crash. You are ugly and smell bad. You are worthless and deserve nothing but misery and unhappiness.
Your response is: I agree to skating with the caveat being you sending me full details and the cost does not exceed $200 for the year. Thank you.
Believe it or not it takes the wind out of their sails and they tend to lose allies as they end up burning others around them!!
I can understand the desire to stand up for yourself and defend your actions. The problem is you are dealing with someone who will never change and will never stop. In effect it is a losing battle. The moment you stop letting it get to you the better off you will be.
Plus when you tell someone to communicate in an alternative format or ignore them completely when they are making as ask, you give them reason to make a decision without consultation.
Read the communication, take out the ask and respond only to that.
For instance:
You are an abusive jerk. You ruined my life. Everyone else agrees you are awful. I hate you so much it hurts. The kids want to take skating lessons at $500 a season of which your share is $200. I hope you dying in a fiery crash. You are ugly and smell bad. You are worthless and deserve nothing but misery and unhappiness.
Your response is: I agree to skating with the caveat being you sending me full details and the cost does not exceed $200 for the year. Thank you.
Believe it or not it takes the wind out of their sails and they tend to lose allies as they end up burning others around them!!
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