Hi Everyone. I thought divorce101 would be appropriate as I certainly hope to gain some knowledge.
Well after being in an abusive relationship for over 35 years (31 years married) I could not take it any longer and asked for a divorce in February. I really wanted things to be amicable as neither of us could really afford lawyers and I did not want things to become nasty because of the adult children....it began amicably until I mentioned I did not know how to separate pensions and would need a little help as I had taken early retirement and at the time had no means (and yes, I found casual employment)..... Next thing I know, my x secured a lawyer and filed for a divorce dating back many months in 2017. I was never served. Only had a letter from x's lawyer which I initially responded to, then x's lawyer asked for my financials..... It was then that I scrambled to seek representation myself. It has became extremely ugly.
We had the JCC in which my X and lawyer were caught in stating untruths so we have been released from this process. I have ran around like a chicken with my head cut off gathering 3 years of statements from financial institutions, credit cards etc to make sure documents were in by the required date. My X has not disclosed documents after a second request from my lawyer, and has purchased another location to reside in.....I am extremely worn out and frustrated by the entire process. Our court date has been set for spring 2019. I have no idea what to expect from now until then and am not getting any real answers from my representative. Sometimes I think it would have been easier to keep my mouth shut and stayed in the physical and emotionally abusive relationship than going through this hell! Any advice/knowledge is certainly appreciated.
Well after being in an abusive relationship for over 35 years (31 years married) I could not take it any longer and asked for a divorce in February. I really wanted things to be amicable as neither of us could really afford lawyers and I did not want things to become nasty because of the adult children....it began amicably until I mentioned I did not know how to separate pensions and would need a little help as I had taken early retirement and at the time had no means (and yes, I found casual employment)..... Next thing I know, my x secured a lawyer and filed for a divorce dating back many months in 2017. I was never served. Only had a letter from x's lawyer which I initially responded to, then x's lawyer asked for my financials..... It was then that I scrambled to seek representation myself. It has became extremely ugly.
We had the JCC in which my X and lawyer were caught in stating untruths so we have been released from this process. I have ran around like a chicken with my head cut off gathering 3 years of statements from financial institutions, credit cards etc to make sure documents were in by the required date. My X has not disclosed documents after a second request from my lawyer, and has purchased another location to reside in.....I am extremely worn out and frustrated by the entire process. Our court date has been set for spring 2019. I have no idea what to expect from now until then and am not getting any real answers from my representative. Sometimes I think it would have been easier to keep my mouth shut and stayed in the physical and emotionally abusive relationship than going through this hell! Any advice/knowledge is certainly appreciated.
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