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Old 04-23-2017, 01:39 PM
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Default 7 things to know before letting go ....

I received this email today and thought it contained some excellent advice. I thought the part about 'walking away from useless arguments' was spot-on: (source unknown)

Oftentimes letting go has nothing to do with weakness, and everything to do with strength. We let go and walk away not because we want the universe to realize our worth, but because we finally realize our own worth.

And thats what this short email is all about realizing your worth, and harnessing this realization to identify the negative ideas, habits, and people in your life that you need to let go of. Here are some key points to consider:

1. The past will steal your present if you let it. You can spend days, weeks, months, or even years sitting alone in the darkness, over-analyzing a situation from the past, trying to put the pieces together, justifying what could have or should have happened. Or you can just leave the pieces on the floor behind you and walk outside into the sunlight to get some fresh air.

2. Not everyone, and not everything, is meant to stay. There are things you dont want to happen, but have to accept, things you dont want to know, but have to learn, and people you cant live without but have to let go. Some circumstances and people come into your life just to strengthen you, so you can move on without them.

3. Happiness is not the absence of problems, but the ability to deal with them. Imagine all the wondrous things your mind might embrace if it werent wrapped so tightly around your struggles. Always look at what you have, instead of what you have lost. Because its not what the world takes away from you that counts; its what you do with what you have left.

4. You are in control of one person, and one person only: yourself. There is only one way to happiness, and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of your control. Letting go in your relationships doesnt always mean that you dont care about people anymore; its simply realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.

5. Some people will refuse to accept you for who you are. Always choose to be true to yourself, even at the risk of incurring ridicule from others, rather than being fake and incurring the pain and confusion of trying to be someone youre not. When you are comfortable in your skin, not everyone in this world will like you, and thats okay. You could be the ripest, juiciest apple in the world, and theres going to be someone out there who hates apples.

6. The world changes when you change. Practice really seeing whatever it is youre looking at. You are today where your thoughts and perceptions have brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts and perceptions take you. If you truly want to change your life, you must first change your mind. The world around you changes when you change.

7. Sometimes walking away is the only way to win. Never waste your time trying to explain yourself to people who have proven that they are committed to misunderstanding you. In other words, dont define your intelligence by the number of arguments you have won, but by the number of times you have said, This needless nonsense is not worth my time.

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Old 04-23-2017, 10:26 PM
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Excellent email Arabian. Thanks for sharing.

couple of quotes I have found helpful are.

ruminating about the past is like trying to drive backwards to undue a car accident.

don't worry about how others perceive you. others should be worried about how you perceive them
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