Good ol’ back to school drama. This literally is going to sound too ridiculous to be true, but I promise you it is.
Ex bought a backpack for our child a few weeks ago. Ok, cool, thanks for the contribution. While doing some shopping with her, daughter sees a backpack with a character from a movie she is currently obsessed with and begs me to buy it. It came with a matching lunch pail and side pockets for her water bottle (neither of which came with the other backpack-note that I never brought any of this up with dad or “scolded” him for his choice in bags, or made any mention of the one I bought)
So I think to myself, ok, we use more practical bag for school and one dad bought for sleepovers at grandparents and his parenting time. Reasonable? I thought so.
First day of school, I take the typical first day picture, and automatically text it to her dad for him to see as well. I immediately get a message back berating me for not sending her to school with the one he and his gf “spent a lot of money on”. My response was “Calm down. She saw this one at the store and begged me to buy it for her, she still uses the other one”
He doesn’t respond to the text. He instead sends an email accusing me of “fucking him over” and that he will no longer be in contact with me. And that he will now only see our daughter on his scheduled times, nothing more, and that he is on the verge of “walking away” and once he does he will walk back into her life when she is 18 and tell her what a “massive c**t” I am. (All in email, perfect.)
But wtf?!? We’ve barely spoken over the past few months as it is. It’s not like I’m constantly harassing him on his parenting skills, or threatening him, or denying him time with our daughter. He literally needs next to no provocation to threaten to walk out on her (he has done it 4-5x this year, not to mention the time we tried talking to a mediator and he asked if he could just sign away his rights as a father to get out of paying CS) So I can just imagine what is going to happen once he gets notice of this motion for arrears and s7 expenses.
Sorry for the rant. It’s just rough, because she absolutely idolizes him and always talks about how much she misses him (he cancelled his access weekend last week once again). It’s going to break her heart if I ever have to tell her she won’t be able to see him anymore. Anybody have any age appropriate explanations they have used to tell a child that one parent has left the picture?(she is 5) Trying to prepare myself for the worst.
Ex bought a backpack for our child a few weeks ago. Ok, cool, thanks for the contribution. While doing some shopping with her, daughter sees a backpack with a character from a movie she is currently obsessed with and begs me to buy it. It came with a matching lunch pail and side pockets for her water bottle (neither of which came with the other backpack-note that I never brought any of this up with dad or “scolded” him for his choice in bags, or made any mention of the one I bought)
So I think to myself, ok, we use more practical bag for school and one dad bought for sleepovers at grandparents and his parenting time. Reasonable? I thought so.
First day of school, I take the typical first day picture, and automatically text it to her dad for him to see as well. I immediately get a message back berating me for not sending her to school with the one he and his gf “spent a lot of money on”. My response was “Calm down. She saw this one at the store and begged me to buy it for her, she still uses the other one”
He doesn’t respond to the text. He instead sends an email accusing me of “fucking him over” and that he will no longer be in contact with me. And that he will now only see our daughter on his scheduled times, nothing more, and that he is on the verge of “walking away” and once he does he will walk back into her life when she is 18 and tell her what a “massive c**t” I am. (All in email, perfect.)
But wtf?!? We’ve barely spoken over the past few months as it is. It’s not like I’m constantly harassing him on his parenting skills, or threatening him, or denying him time with our daughter. He literally needs next to no provocation to threaten to walk out on her (he has done it 4-5x this year, not to mention the time we tried talking to a mediator and he asked if he could just sign away his rights as a father to get out of paying CS) So I can just imagine what is going to happen once he gets notice of this motion for arrears and s7 expenses.
Sorry for the rant. It’s just rough, because she absolutely idolizes him and always talks about how much she misses him (he cancelled his access weekend last week once again). It’s going to break her heart if I ever have to tell her she won’t be able to see him anymore. Anybody have any age appropriate explanations they have used to tell a child that one parent has left the picture?(she is 5) Trying to prepare myself for the worst.
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