There has been a relevation in our situation.
My husband and I sat down and began piecing together all the facts of this sudden and unexpected unilateral change in communication methods. (For further information, please check the "Communication" thread.)
Here is what we assume (though we are 100% sure) is happening:
My stepson's mom is trying to go after me, the step-parent, for child support.
We know this because of the following facts:
My husband is very adament about keeping me protected from her. All communications are from him, he is the only one that deals with her... even if he first talks to me about how to handle the issues. I stay happily in the background, as much as possible.
Given this information, how do you suggest we continue to protect ourselves... especially in regards to her attempts at my income, and in regards to her recent communication stunts?
Any advice would be great!
My husband and I sat down and began piecing together all the facts of this sudden and unexpected unilateral change in communication methods. (For further information, please check the "Communication" thread.)
Here is what we assume (though we are 100% sure) is happening:
My stepson's mom is trying to go after me, the step-parent, for child support.
We know this because of the following facts:
- When my husband lost his employment, she frequently requested that child support be based on our "household" income as I was supporting him during his time of unemployment, when he was not paying child support (or paying what he could reasonably afford at the time).
- She has made several attempts to obtain my income information, asking to see original copies of documents that are irrelevant to my husband's proof of income (e.g., our mortgage or tenant agreement).
- She complains that my husband discusses issues relating to his son with me (my husband and I have been together since before his son was born and I have been raising the child alongside his father since his birth) and is claiming that I am the "decision-maker" regarding the child, and not his father.
- She has sent emails and left voicemails asking to have telephone conversations with "the person that makes decisions regarding the child" whether it's me or my husband, and continually insists I am welcome to call her if I am the "decision-maker."
- She claims that I am the "decision-maker" because I'm the one that takes care of the child when my husband has work commitments, because I sometimes pick the child up or drop him off when my husband cannot due to work obligations, and that I schedule activities and playdates for the child.
My husband is very adament about keeping me protected from her. All communications are from him, he is the only one that deals with her... even if he first talks to me about how to handle the issues. I stay happily in the background, as much as possible.
Given this information, how do you suggest we continue to protect ourselves... especially in regards to her attempts at my income, and in regards to her recent communication stunts?
Any advice would be great!
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