I've owned my own house for 5 years in Ontario and my girl friend has recently moved in, we have been living together for 9 monthes and are expecting a baby girl in February and are now in a common law relationship but have been having shaky times of late and I think we are both worried about the future. We've been having some difficult times of late but are sticking together and trying to work them out We're both strong minded people and neither of us will simply get married just because we're having a child unless it's the right thing to do with each other and at the same time we both are anxious to be parents and share the joys of raising our daughter together or sharing the responsibility separately.
A little more history, Only my name is on the house I put all the money down on it well before we met and still pay all the mortgage, taxes, and bills. We both have middle income salaries coming in. As she's handcuffed with a massive student debt. She provides me with about 500 in rent a month.
My 4 questions are if the unfortunate happens and we separate, as common laws what's the worse that can happen below if we can't mutually agree and it goes to courts for both us fighting for everything?
1) What happens to our baby, my preference is to have full custody and/or joint but I'm worried she will by default get it? What happens usually here, as human beings we're both good people and I think either would make excellent parents.
2) I've invested alot into my house and obviously would like to keep everything I sacrificed and worked hard to put into it. I believe she should be re-imbursed for money she puts into it but I am not sure what she can get from it? Even if she's not paying and the value of the hosue goes up each year is she entitled to a portion of that if she's not paying?
3) What happens to possessions we each own before/during the relationship? I'd like to be able to keep everything that was mine beforehand but am completely open to splitting what we put together or even willing to give more.
4) What happens with our individual RRSPs/Pensions?
Thank you for taking time to help me out or read my post.
A little more history, Only my name is on the house I put all the money down on it well before we met and still pay all the mortgage, taxes, and bills. We both have middle income salaries coming in. As she's handcuffed with a massive student debt. She provides me with about 500 in rent a month.
My 4 questions are if the unfortunate happens and we separate, as common laws what's the worse that can happen below if we can't mutually agree and it goes to courts for both us fighting for everything?
1) What happens to our baby, my preference is to have full custody and/or joint but I'm worried she will by default get it? What happens usually here, as human beings we're both good people and I think either would make excellent parents.
2) I've invested alot into my house and obviously would like to keep everything I sacrificed and worked hard to put into it. I believe she should be re-imbursed for money she puts into it but I am not sure what she can get from it? Even if she's not paying and the value of the hosue goes up each year is she entitled to a portion of that if she's not paying?
3) What happens to possessions we each own before/during the relationship? I'd like to be able to keep everything that was mine beforehand but am completely open to splitting what we put together or even willing to give more.
4) What happens with our individual RRSPs/Pensions?
Thank you for taking time to help me out or read my post.
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