With respect to the OP and my learned friends here, I don't think this is the place to figure out what to do about the porn issue.
Attempting to keep my personal feelings out of it, I feel the need to say that this is an issue for professionals to become involved in and determine appropriate action (assuming, of course, that action is necessary).
The regulars here know more about marriage, divorce, parenting, etc., than I ever will, but I believe that this is an area of life that must never be treated with anything less than 100% professional attention.
I am not suggesting that anything bad is going to happen by vitue of the history described by the OP: That would just be my uninformed opinion. I will, however, offer my somewhat informed opinion that Bad Things almost ALWAYS happen to kids right under our noses. Nobody ever thinks it's going to happen, and when it does everybody expresses shock and surprise... and then the ol' 20/20 hindsight starts tickling everybody involved.
So, please, seek and accept advice on all matters pertaining to your separation, divorce, parenting, rights, etc., here, and avail yourself of any and all support provided. But if you are worried, even a little bit, about potential abuse of your children, please do not leave it to us to sort out for you.
Just my thoughts folks, and they're not worth the electrons burned in committing them to type, but the hair is standing up on the back of my neck.
One small bit of advice for the OP, if you're inclined to accept: I almost stopped reading your post at the very beginning when you inserted the "rolled eyes" smiley right after your suggestion that your ex feels that he's a victim too. Right or wrong, his thoughts are his and are equally valuable. There are three sides to every story and for you to dismiss his with rolled eyes makes me think you petty. It doesn't matter a tinker's damn (whatever that is! LOL) what I think, but you don't want to come across that way during any official proceedings. (Another valueless opinion, to be sure, but I'm waxing philosophical today)
Cheers!
Gary
Attempting to keep my personal feelings out of it, I feel the need to say that this is an issue for professionals to become involved in and determine appropriate action (assuming, of course, that action is necessary).
The regulars here know more about marriage, divorce, parenting, etc., than I ever will, but I believe that this is an area of life that must never be treated with anything less than 100% professional attention.
I am not suggesting that anything bad is going to happen by vitue of the history described by the OP: That would just be my uninformed opinion. I will, however, offer my somewhat informed opinion that Bad Things almost ALWAYS happen to kids right under our noses. Nobody ever thinks it's going to happen, and when it does everybody expresses shock and surprise... and then the ol' 20/20 hindsight starts tickling everybody involved.
So, please, seek and accept advice on all matters pertaining to your separation, divorce, parenting, rights, etc., here, and avail yourself of any and all support provided. But if you are worried, even a little bit, about potential abuse of your children, please do not leave it to us to sort out for you.
Just my thoughts folks, and they're not worth the electrons burned in committing them to type, but the hair is standing up on the back of my neck.
One small bit of advice for the OP, if you're inclined to accept: I almost stopped reading your post at the very beginning when you inserted the "rolled eyes" smiley right after your suggestion that your ex feels that he's a victim too. Right or wrong, his thoughts are his and are equally valuable. There are three sides to every story and for you to dismiss his with rolled eyes makes me think you petty. It doesn't matter a tinker's damn (whatever that is! LOL) what I think, but you don't want to come across that way during any official proceedings. (Another valueless opinion, to be sure, but I'm waxing philosophical today)
Cheers!
Gary
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