Again asking on behalf of my husband.
Separated from his ex for 6.5 years. Regular parenting schedule is EOW.
Their agreement states that in even numbered years he is to have March Break. For the past 6 years, the status quo has been that March Break is from the Friday the kids are done school, until the Sunday before school starts and then the regular schedule picks up. Which means, in odd years, he misses a weekend with the kids, but it has always worked out. So this is his year for March Break, which should include both weekends as in the past.
Their agreement also states that if Easter or Thanksgiving fall on his weekend and it is his ex's year for the Holiday, he is to get a make up weekend. This has also been the case for the past 6 years.
Well he emailed his ex last week stating he would like his make up weekend for Easter to be the first weekend in April. She responded and said he was NOT getting that weekend because he already gets an extra weekend with March Break. He emailed her back and stated he disagreed and that March Break has always been from the Friday to the Sunday. Her response is that "she has been generous in the past"
So obviously she isn't going to allow the make up weekend. This is so frustrating this happens to so many people, especially since this agreement has been in place for many years.
His question is, this summer's holiday weeks have already been picked by both of them. Her last request for vacation is Aug 19-26, and he would pick the kids up August 26 for his regular weekend with them. Would it be unreasonable for him to inform her when he picks them up on August 26th that he is keeping them a couple extra days due to his missed Easter weekend with them? If he informs her before hand, she will withhold the children, as she has done in the past.
Something similar happened about 4 years ago, except it was about the actually Easter weekend. She stated he could only have the kids if he met her Sunday morning, rather than Monday afternoon. He refused and she didn't show up for the Thursday drop off. He ended up getting them Friday morning, only because he stated he agreed to her request. Then once he had them, emailed her and told her that no he didn't agree and would be meeting Monday afternoon, as per their written agreement and he did not consent to her attempting to hold his parenting time above his head because he doesn't agree with her requests. She ended up calling the police, which in turned called him, but the officer told him there was nothing they could do and if they had a written agreement to follow it.
He doesn't like doing this, but how else can he get his make up time?
Separated from his ex for 6.5 years. Regular parenting schedule is EOW.
Their agreement states that in even numbered years he is to have March Break. For the past 6 years, the status quo has been that March Break is from the Friday the kids are done school, until the Sunday before school starts and then the regular schedule picks up. Which means, in odd years, he misses a weekend with the kids, but it has always worked out. So this is his year for March Break, which should include both weekends as in the past.
Their agreement also states that if Easter or Thanksgiving fall on his weekend and it is his ex's year for the Holiday, he is to get a make up weekend. This has also been the case for the past 6 years.
Well he emailed his ex last week stating he would like his make up weekend for Easter to be the first weekend in April. She responded and said he was NOT getting that weekend because he already gets an extra weekend with March Break. He emailed her back and stated he disagreed and that March Break has always been from the Friday to the Sunday. Her response is that "she has been generous in the past"
So obviously she isn't going to allow the make up weekend. This is so frustrating this happens to so many people, especially since this agreement has been in place for many years.
His question is, this summer's holiday weeks have already been picked by both of them. Her last request for vacation is Aug 19-26, and he would pick the kids up August 26 for his regular weekend with them. Would it be unreasonable for him to inform her when he picks them up on August 26th that he is keeping them a couple extra days due to his missed Easter weekend with them? If he informs her before hand, she will withhold the children, as she has done in the past.
Something similar happened about 4 years ago, except it was about the actually Easter weekend. She stated he could only have the kids if he met her Sunday morning, rather than Monday afternoon. He refused and she didn't show up for the Thursday drop off. He ended up getting them Friday morning, only because he stated he agreed to her request. Then once he had them, emailed her and told her that no he didn't agree and would be meeting Monday afternoon, as per their written agreement and he did not consent to her attempting to hold his parenting time above his head because he doesn't agree with her requests. She ended up calling the police, which in turned called him, but the officer told him there was nothing they could do and if they had a written agreement to follow it.
He doesn't like doing this, but how else can he get his make up time?
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