Life After The Motion

[Straittohell]

Why did the Darth Vader intro music start playing in my head?

[Berner_Faith]

Such a tough call. I thought the same darn thing Rioe. She put me through so much on the past 9 months. Denials of access, allegations...you name it. I thought .. hmm I'm just going to stick to the order. She won't even budge half an hour after all.

My lawyer thinks like Mr. T. does...that I should offer something to keep riding the "reasonable train" for court. Tough choice.

What do you think browneyes?

I agree with you that it is a tough call. You want to look reasonable but you have also fought hard for a court order. My worry is that you are flexible and then she uses that to say that you are only following the court order when it suits you. Your ex obviously isn't of a sound mind and this type of thing is something she would try to use against you.

How much is she pressuring you for Xmas time? Are you sure she would return your daughter after the agreed up on time or would she be out of town and unable to do so? Keep in mind, a storm is supposed to hit Xmas eve, will she use the excuse the weather is too bad to transport?

[dad2bandm]

She claims it's too early for D3 to be up. Says she's used to sleeping now until 10:00. D3 is bright eyed and bushy tailed in the early mornings...full of hugs and smiles...

I don't know any 3 year old that sleeps in until 10am...ever...unless the kid is kept up all hours and it's from exhaustion. Kids get up early. Kids that go to school are up by then. I wish my kids would sleep in a few extra minutes on a weekend. Doesn't happen.

[arabian]

I would postulate that the mom is too whacked out on her meds to get up in the morning and quite possibly doesn't even hear D3 wake up. hmmmmm.....

[LovingFather32]

pill hangover

I would postulate that the mom is too whacked out on her meds to get up in the morning and quite possibly doesn't even hear D3 wake up. hmmmmm.....

Sometimes I wonder. I theorize she is trying to identify any variable possible to show how the current schedule is not in the best interest of D3.

D3 is crying to come back here and see us. To the point where she is probably anxious over waiting for the longest 6 sleeps (which explains why D3 is not handling transitions well at her place). Ex is probably irate hearing about how she misses me and wants to see me.

[LovingFather32]

I agree with you that it is a tough call. You want to look reasonable but you have also fought hard for a court order. My worry is that you are flexible and then she uses that to say that you are only following the court order when it suits you. Your ex obviously isn't of a sound mind and this type of thing is something she would try to use against you.

How much is she pressuring you for Xmas time? Are you sure she would return your daughter after the agreed up on time or would she be out of town and unable to do so? Keep in mind, a storm is supposed to hit Xmas eve, will she use the excuse the weather is too bad to transport?

Good point on the weather. You're correct, I don't want anything to be used against me in court. When I mentioned my support for Wednesdays at noon she sent me a long winded text about how she didn't mind dropping D3 off later after my work.

No thanks. I said I had it all covered and lots of support.

[mcdreamy]

BAHHHHH......SC judge said we'll see how D3 is doing in March.

ERGO? (or is it.... let go my EGGO) I do believe the menopausal Judge wants to do a KUUM BY YAA at the next Conference (your MR KUUM

I call it .....nosing her way into Goldilocks manure because there may be a sweet nugget to sniff. (NONE... but some Judges are biased)

LF32 knew exactly what he's suffered since last Feb.....but it only takes one stupid Judge to twirl a tampon in her fingers to throw a wrench in the works.

I won't go over LF32's grandfather making noises in Court but it's A-OK for Goldilocks to do audio for the Judge ...(typical)

LF32 if you did the same thing as Goldilocks in Court....guess what would happen. (yes ....mentally unfit) That hot poker up your ying yang....smile about it when at Court.

I read a bit on how a Judge can seize a file....it's because they were involved in a Motion or a Order (consent).....This SC/TMC Judge can't involve herself in your parties file.

But she's trying ....and Goldilocks is marching to the LF32 is a unfit parent TUNE

I originally dismissed the SC/TMC as LAZY ...she said the same old buzzwords for counselling LAZY judges do...but the fact Goldilocks (with LAO scumbag guidance) is doing what the menopause Judge wondered about...

Does LF32 get the feeling the menopause Judge wants the PARTIES to get on with access and piss off. (a good Judge)

or....does LF32 think ...WTF

He'll think WTF....because the menopause Judge gave Goldilocks HOPE

BEST EFFORTS of the PARENTS. (ideal scenario when one parent loses ..goldilocks)...goes into GAMES for Goldilocks to prove LF32 is unfit just because of the judge.

Goldilocks is going to run up to the menopause Judge with....see all the bad things I found with LF32 parenting!!!!!.....now lick my face

I've had 2 female Judges in my time and they are worlds apart from the over sanitized, beaten down, but enlightened male Judges ....and why there's books on why MEN are from Mars and Women are from Venus

the menopause Judge lives on another planet, she lives by the Tender Years Doctrine, (only a vagina can parent) so do every thing and go beyond what the Judge mused about

I've gotten every Endorsement within a hour of a Court appearance ending, even after Trial( just waited in hallway for it to be made up)....your the first person I've met....that never gets one.

Must be your city

Mr. T., this premenopausal admin is going to warn you, up front and out loud, to lay off of the female slurs. And now, I'm going to go and hopefully continue reading what is happening in this thread without any further sexist denigrating comments.

[MrToronto]

...LAO scumbag lawyer.....douchebag OCL....Goldilock's....can I keep those names?

Can I say male menopause? probably not when chat rules are made up on the fly. (Homer Simpsons are still good for slur's thank gawd )

Judge Viagra from LF32's Motion has done something that is being over looked and should be looked at

The booze and dope allegation's from Goldilocks

The verbal abuse allegation

Her highness the OCL and that allegation

Judge Viagra dismissed them, my thinking is although at the Motion it's affidavit evidence there is little difference on how they are brought forward again at a Trial

Can you re-try what has already been ruled on? (can u hang a man twice) (only men get that slur)

In the same theme forgetting what or what can be re-tried......Will both parties AGREE....to drop booze n drugs....and verbal abuse (Request to Admit)

Courts encourage both parties to agree on items....prior to Trial because it shortens Trial time.

LF32's lawyer hasn't made a move to find out which position the LAO scumbag lawyer is going forward on

All I can do is suggest LF32 find out where the OP is at currently and get it on RECORD

Then he can go to another conference with it or a Trial

I can say right off the TOP.....OP has to agree to drop booze and drugs

It's a TAIL CHASER for both parties and goes no where (both did it)(one sided drug/alcohol tests)

All LF32 needs is the RIGHT questions.....to be used later for who is provoking conflict.

ALL old issues should not be on the table anymore...Judge Viagra dumped them

[LovingFather32]

I should just send her a message ..

"I just wanted to inquire whether or not discussions on topics such as substance abuse and sexual boundaries will be continued at the settlement conference or if you're interested in exploring settlement options?"

Not sure how well that would go over. She'd send it to her lawyer. Bet I wouldn't get a response .. and if I did it would be "That's something our lawyers would have to talk about".

I feel like I should have her on the record illustrating her avoidance of solutions and settlement. It's all in the wording I suppose. Ideas?

[MrToronto]

WAHT!!!

You need to know what is on the table buddy

A future Judge Viagra or Virgin Mary/Snow White will wanna see Narrowing of Issues

How the hell is that done? and HOW can you prove you tried?

Saying nothing works only if your blind deaf an dumb then a Judge understands

Need in writing......

PULL Goldilocks's Reply to your Application

are you going ahead with claim 1....booze

claim 2.....yelled at me

claim 3...gave me the evil eye


I don't see the caution? You need it at the Conferences......I Goldilocks hate LF32 so much that we are keeping all claims against him

Sounds ridiculous.....but the Virgin Mary Judge from SC will be there...she didn't resolve anything the first trip ...never offered anything constructive going forward...

Virgin Mary's Judges are typical .....you have to pound her with technical stuff or she'll leave the bench and sit with Goldilocks

other than stick handling through what the Virgin Mary Judge told Goldilocks to do (cause conflict and hurt D3) you have to nail down the Trial issues

Amazingly enough the Virgin Mary Judge will determine (from both parties) how many zillions of dollars are wasted at a Trial (taxpayer money and sadly yours) with ALL ISSUES

I want you and your lawyer .....at the SC waving around a LAO scumbag letter saying it's THEM going ahead with ALL ISSUES

Perhaps the Virgin Mary Judge missed a Oprah foot soldier show...and bow to procedure

[LovingFather32]

WAHT!!!

You need to know what is on the table buddy

A future Judge Viagra or Virgin Mary/Snow White will wanna see Narrowing of Issues

How the hell is that done? and HOW can you prove you tried?

Saying nothing works only if your blind deaf an dumb then a Judge understands

Need in writing......

PULL Goldilocks's Reply to your Application

are you going ahead with claim 1....booze

claim 2.....yelled at me

claim 3...gave me the evil eye


I don't see the caution? You need it at the Conferences......I Goldilocks hate LF32 so much that we are keeping all claims against him

Sounds ridiculous.....but the Virgin Mary Judge from SC will be there...she didn't resolve anything the first trip ...never offered anything constructive going forward...

Virgin Mary's Judges are typical .....you have to pound her with technical stuff or she'll leave the bench and sit with Goldilocks

other than stick handling through what the Virgin Mary Judge told Goldilocks to do (cause conflict and hurt D3) you have to nail down the Trial issues

Amazingly enough the Virgin Mary Judge will determine (from both parties) how many zillions of dollars are wasted at a Trial (taxpayer money and sadly yours) with ALL ISSUES

I want you and your lawyer .....at the SC waving around a LAO scumbag letter saying it's THEM going ahead with ALL ISSUES

Perhaps the Virgin Mary Judge missed a Oprah foot soldier show...and bow to procedure

I totally agree. I just felt I needed the dust to settle a bit. She is able to twist everything somehow in to a form of abuse against her. I cant put an "XOXO" at the end of an e-mail to my own mother.

Last thing I need is her saying I'm harassing her by asking if she's going ahead with the allegations and not being child focused.

Through text she doesn't have to reply and will just refer me to her lawyer Im sure. Or take days to get in contact with her lawyer to come up with a BS response.

The one thing I KNOW she's going forward with is that D3is not doing well with the current schedule. That's a fact.

I guess nothing ventured nothing gained.

I've been cautious. Its traumatizing to have your job threatened, your livelihood, your rights to see your daughter, your freedom.

But nothing ventured .. nothing gained. She probably likes that I havent asked.

I should just be to the point? "Are you going forward with allegation 1: __?"

[shirley1011]

Put any comments you want to make in the communication book...you know that will be entered at trial....be sure you make a copy of it...although I'm sure you already have.

[standing on the sidelines]

Put any comments you want to make in the communication book...you know that will be entered at trial....be sure you make a copy of it...although I'm sure you already have.

I am not sure if that's a good idea. Isn't the communication book to deal strictly with issues with the child? I don't think its the place to discuss the legal issues of the parents. Not sure if that would backfire or not.

[LovingFather32]

Nope. None of that going in comm. book. Comm. book is strictly for D3-related stuff. She'd have a hay day if I put that in comm. book.

[SadAndTired]

But nothing ventured .. nothing gained. She probably likes that I havent asked.

I should just be to the point? "Are you going forward with allegation 1: __?"

Why??? What do you think will happen? Do you actually think she's going to tell you the truth?

If I was your ex, I certainly wouldn't share any of my legal strategy with you. You need to stop relying on her for so many things.

Make a plan and do it. Be proactive not reactive.

Focus on your child.