Oh you are playing dodge the fight? I love that game ,not!.Be extremely careful and recording in your home should never be a problem.Would you consider putting hidden cameras in hallway living room ,your bedroom etc?If you cant be sure of what she could do it might be handy to have a way of proving you were where you said you were.Newer ones upload on to the web so the data stays secure.When she feels cornered and exposed she could say anything really.Stay focused on your kids and dont be drawn into the crazy....Good luck ,I hope you get this worked out soon!
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Originally posted by FB_ View PostI want to get a voice recorder to record our conversations but I was told to be very careful with this because if you record somebody else's conversations you could be in big "federal" trouble. I need to find a way to protect myself.
It won't be a big help with the family law stuff, but it could be invaluable for criminal law.
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Originally posted by Pursuinghappiness View PostYou can't mediate anything with a person with this type of mentality...its good that you've filed so that you can get started on the process.
1. One or both parties are not suffering from a mental illness.
2. One or both parties are not suffering from a substance abuse problem.
If you have either condition of #1 or #2 or worse... a combination of #1 and #2 the only option for many people is the courts.
Good Luck!
Tayken
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Originally posted by Tayken View PostWhat all mediators and arbitrators basically learn (well "good" ones that is) is that you can mediate anything so long as:
1. One or both parties are not suffering from a mental illness.
2. One or both parties are not suffering from a substance abuse problem.
If you have either condition of #1 or #2 or worse... a combination of #1 and #2 the only option for many people is the courts.
Good Luck!
Tayken
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Originally posted by FB_ View PostI want to get a voice recorder to record our conversations but I was told to be very careful with this because if you record somebody else's conversations you could be in big "federal" trouble. I need to find a way to protect myself.
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Originally posted by Mess View PostThat is U.S. law. In Canada, consent is only required by one party. Or in other words, you may record yourself, along with the other parties.
However my lawyer told me to be careful I don't accidentally record a conversation that occurred and I was not a direct participant in even though I was still able to hear the conversation. Although if I can hear the conversation and am present in the room then that person would have no expectations of privacy.
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If by normal you mean.
- Being able to commit to anything without the fear of your ex doing something at the last minute to change things
- Being able to have any friends over to my house
- Being able to walk around your own house without feeling like you are walking on egg shells
- Being able sleep on a normal bed in a normal room.
- Being able to have any privacy
Yes it's pretty difficult to have a normal life. I was able to have a little bit of a normal life this summer but that will all stop tonight. She changed our summer schedule (refer to point 1) and is bringing the kids back to the house tonight. Which is a good thing as I will get to spend more time with them. I have only had to see my stbx twice and only for 15 minutes at pick-up / drop-off since June 29th. However she will be living in the house again as she gets ready to go back to work in September. I continued to live and sleep in the basement even though I had the whole house to myself. Didn't want to raise my standard of living and have to adjust again LOL.
Edit: Thanks for the sympathy Sax...My post sounds a little rude...it was not meant to be.
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So my stbx and kids came home last night from out of town. Kids were very happy to see me as I was them. Anyway this morning I got up and had a shower and my son said he was hungry. As the kids had not been home for a long time there were not too many groceries in the house. I told my son I would run to Tim Horton's and get them bagels for breakfast.
Before I left to Timmies I knocked on my stbx door and told her to get up as I had to go to work. I left and went to get the bagels. When I returned she was still sleeping in bed. I gave the kids their breakfast and woke her up again. She told me just to leave her door open which I did and she stayed in bed. I confirmed with my son if he remembered how to call me if he needed me. I had forgotten so I reminded him which speed dial my number was on. he agreed to call me if he needed anything.
It just pisses me off that she would rather sleep and let a 6yo and 3yo have free run of the house.
Anyway... it's all documented and conversations recorded.
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Keep your chin up! Even though documenting everything seems futile...and many many days I felt I didn't have the energy to do so, I plugged away day after day.
My journal showed a pattern and history of behaviour....which although wasn't used directly in court, was communicated to my lawyer and child assessor. It was instrumental in the outcome in my case.
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Originally posted by FB_ View PostSo my stbx and kids came home last night from out of town. Kids were very happy to see me as I was them. Anyway this morning I got up and had a shower and my son said he was hungry. As the kids had not been home for a long time there were not too many groceries in the house. I told my son I would run to Tim Horton's and get them bagels for breakfast.
Before I left to Timmies I knocked on my stbx door and told her to get up as I had to go to work. I left and went to get the bagels. When I returned she was still sleeping in bed. I gave the kids their breakfast and woke her up again. She told me just to leave her door open which I did and she stayed in bed. I confirmed with my son if he remembered how to call me if he needed me. I had forgotten so I reminded him which speed dial my number was on. he agreed to call me if he needed anything.
It just pisses me off that she would rather sleep and let a 6yo and 3yo have free run of the house.
Anyway... it's all documented and conversations recorded.
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Originally posted by Rioe View PostI'm thinking that due to her psych history, possible drug use, and evident inability to get up and supervise them, I would not want to leave the children alone in the house with her for great lengths of time. Can you get them registered in a daycare or have a neighbour check in frequently or something?
If I go to CAS then I'm the one causing problems.
If I say something to my stbx I'm accusing her of things which increases the stress on myself and the kids. I really don't know what to do.
If I wait at home till she actually gets up I can't do much to stop her from going back to bed once I leave. All I know is she called me at 11:30 telling me she was going to do groceries. I have no idea what time she actually got out of bed.
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