First of all thank you in advance, my story is quite messy and in depth.
I am British and moved here in 1991 with my then 3 year old son to follow my ex husband. I was very young and quite naive, and did not realise once I had stepped on Canadian soil with my son, I had signed away my right to go back home.
So, I stayed here to raise my son, who is now 20 almost 21 and heading off to University in Sept to Toronto. He is on a set path and doing fabulously well. His entire paternal side of the family is here and truly supported.
I have made some bad choices in my life (men) because of the home sickness. I met an abusive alcoholic man, somehow convinced myself he was OK. Got pregnant, wanted to do the right thing for my unborn child and married him. I have since learned this was a huge error.
After my son was born, the abuse escalated. I ended the relationship with police intervention. I was on mat leave and in no fit state mentally to go back to work at that time. My counsellor advised me to take our son into an emergency shelter. To protect us both. I did. I found a job, got back on my feet and ended up in a decent home.
I am very capable of making excellent $'s and maintaining my work. I am in Human Resources Management believe it or not. I am educated but obviously not enough. He has grade 10 and is OK with that.
The court allows him to see our son every other Saturday for 2 hours supervised. Mediation has put other provisions in there also. I was laid off at the end of February. And now we may lose our home and belongings.
I asked my ex if he would allow me to go back to the UK with our son, I have oodles of loving, supportive family there. I said our son could come for summers and stay with his grandparents and he could skype. And I would hold that promise for my sons sake and his brother and grand parents. He has flatly refused and is refusing to talk with me.
He misses visits, he doesn't pay support regularly and cuts visits short, usually because of a hang over or other plans. My youngest son sees his big brother more frequently and has more of a bond and relationship than with his own father. He has seen his paternal grand parents once so far this year, they are 4 hours drive away.
I have no family support and am terrified we will end up in a shelter. I do not know what to do. I did have a restraining order which I allowed to lapse. He is now with someone else and when not mad with me tells me how the relationship is about to end. She has sent me numerous abusive emails about the whole situation which I have not responded too. I have never even met her.
I want my young son to have the same opportunities my eldest has had, a solid loving family support network around him, education and above all else safety.
I want what is right for my wee guy, how can this situation be right. I appreciate any constructuve input. Thank you.
I am British and moved here in 1991 with my then 3 year old son to follow my ex husband. I was very young and quite naive, and did not realise once I had stepped on Canadian soil with my son, I had signed away my right to go back home.
So, I stayed here to raise my son, who is now 20 almost 21 and heading off to University in Sept to Toronto. He is on a set path and doing fabulously well. His entire paternal side of the family is here and truly supported.
I have made some bad choices in my life (men) because of the home sickness. I met an abusive alcoholic man, somehow convinced myself he was OK. Got pregnant, wanted to do the right thing for my unborn child and married him. I have since learned this was a huge error.
After my son was born, the abuse escalated. I ended the relationship with police intervention. I was on mat leave and in no fit state mentally to go back to work at that time. My counsellor advised me to take our son into an emergency shelter. To protect us both. I did. I found a job, got back on my feet and ended up in a decent home.
I am very capable of making excellent $'s and maintaining my work. I am in Human Resources Management believe it or not. I am educated but obviously not enough. He has grade 10 and is OK with that.
The court allows him to see our son every other Saturday for 2 hours supervised. Mediation has put other provisions in there also. I was laid off at the end of February. And now we may lose our home and belongings.
I asked my ex if he would allow me to go back to the UK with our son, I have oodles of loving, supportive family there. I said our son could come for summers and stay with his grandparents and he could skype. And I would hold that promise for my sons sake and his brother and grand parents. He has flatly refused and is refusing to talk with me.
He misses visits, he doesn't pay support regularly and cuts visits short, usually because of a hang over or other plans. My youngest son sees his big brother more frequently and has more of a bond and relationship than with his own father. He has seen his paternal grand parents once so far this year, they are 4 hours drive away.
I have no family support and am terrified we will end up in a shelter. I do not know what to do. I did have a restraining order which I allowed to lapse. He is now with someone else and when not mad with me tells me how the relationship is about to end. She has sent me numerous abusive emails about the whole situation which I have not responded too. I have never even met her.
I want my young son to have the same opportunities my eldest has had, a solid loving family support network around him, education and above all else safety.
I want what is right for my wee guy, how can this situation be right. I appreciate any constructuve input. Thank you.
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