Hi guys- sorry to be spamming the board so much lately. But things are starting to ramp up for me- and I'm trying to strategize the best way to deal with my matter moving forward.
Here's where we are:
1. OCL Final Report should be coming to us any day now- investigator said she was waiting for her supervisor to review the final draft and should be to us by mid march- so before Friday?
2. Monday- Ex's lawyer sent a letter saying equalization is a "modest $1000"- it is not. I've done the final calculation. It's actually 45-65K- depending on the legal argument on whether ex can subtract our first marital home from equalization [cliff notes version- I paid for the entirety of the wedding, which was to buy my equity into his condo- I have this in an email confirming it. Sort of long shot- but because I have this plan confirmed in writing (email)- I'm feeling okay about taking this court myself].
Ex's lawyer is rushing equalization because we both have a modest amount of funds sitting in trust from the sale of the matrimonial home. No surprise on the rush- he wants $$ to fight the report I'm guessing.
I have drafted a final parenting plan. I have drafted the motion documents for proper equalization.
To recap- equalization is ready to go (meaning ready to rumble/fight); parenting is not because we need to get final OCL report and review.
Questions:
1. Do we respond to equalization request now? Let it sit? It was not an offer to settle- just a letter asking for us to settle on consent. lol. No. But do we tell them that?
2. Do we serve final offers to settle both parenting plan and equalization at the same time?
3. Do we settle parenting stuff first? The strategy for this is that I know my ex is in debt (so am I- but to a lesser extent)- BUT I can weather increased legal fees better than him. He's not impecunious though- he can get through it. He's about 40K deep, but has another 50K line of credit he hasn't touched.
Things to consider- he's cheap. BUT he's also really into this fight against me.
I was more worried about the emotional toll on me from this "fight" for the last year. I'm not anymore.
I've let go of all material expectations from this fight. My bigger motivations are getting to a good/reasonable parenting plan for our daughter + getting a fair equalization because I do not want to set a precedent that I'll cave/settle/ be pushed around. BUT I also don't want to keep paying $$$$ in legal fees. I want to go on vacation goddamnit.
Thanks in advance.
Here's where we are:
1. OCL Final Report should be coming to us any day now- investigator said she was waiting for her supervisor to review the final draft and should be to us by mid march- so before Friday?
2. Monday- Ex's lawyer sent a letter saying equalization is a "modest $1000"- it is not. I've done the final calculation. It's actually 45-65K- depending on the legal argument on whether ex can subtract our first marital home from equalization [cliff notes version- I paid for the entirety of the wedding, which was to buy my equity into his condo- I have this in an email confirming it. Sort of long shot- but because I have this plan confirmed in writing (email)- I'm feeling okay about taking this court myself].
Ex's lawyer is rushing equalization because we both have a modest amount of funds sitting in trust from the sale of the matrimonial home. No surprise on the rush- he wants $$ to fight the report I'm guessing.
I have drafted a final parenting plan. I have drafted the motion documents for proper equalization.
To recap- equalization is ready to go (meaning ready to rumble/fight); parenting is not because we need to get final OCL report and review.
Questions:
1. Do we respond to equalization request now? Let it sit? It was not an offer to settle- just a letter asking for us to settle on consent. lol. No. But do we tell them that?
2. Do we serve final offers to settle both parenting plan and equalization at the same time?
3. Do we settle parenting stuff first? The strategy for this is that I know my ex is in debt (so am I- but to a lesser extent)- BUT I can weather increased legal fees better than him. He's not impecunious though- he can get through it. He's about 40K deep, but has another 50K line of credit he hasn't touched.
Things to consider- he's cheap. BUT he's also really into this fight against me.
I was more worried about the emotional toll on me from this "fight" for the last year. I'm not anymore.
I've let go of all material expectations from this fight. My bigger motivations are getting to a good/reasonable parenting plan for our daughter + getting a fair equalization because I do not want to set a precedent that I'll cave/settle/ be pushed around. BUT I also don't want to keep paying $$$$ in legal fees. I want to go on vacation goddamnit.
Thanks in advance.
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