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Old 01-29-2021, 09:32 PM
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Looking for advice on what to do when the other co-parent won't follow COVID-19 lock-down restrictions with the children. We have a shared 50-50 schedule and the kids told me when they were dropped off that they were hanging out today with one of the other parents' friend, without anyone wearing masks. I am obviously concerned both for the safety of my kids and one of my household members who is at high risk of severe complications if they were to get COVID. I tried addressing it with my ex and got told to "mind my own fucking business."
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Options:

A) Take 100% custody temporarily

As a bonus, lose a few tens of thousands of dollars in the inevitable massive court battle required.

The likely result is that your ex will promise not to see the other family again, so you won't actually get 100% custody. You will, however, force a change in behaviour.

B) Let ex take 100% custody

As a bonus, possibly don't see your kids for months. That said, keeps your vulnerable relatives safe.

C) Mind your own fucking business

If the ex is only bubbling with one other family, the risks are probably still really low.

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Old 01-30-2021, 10:40 AM
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Pointing it out via email is enough. If there are multiple times this is happening and there is real concern- then think about next steps.
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Options:

A) Take 100% custody temporarily

As a bonus, lose a few tens of thousands of dollars in the inevitable massive court battle required.

The likely result is that your ex will promise not to see the other family again, so you won't actually get 100% custody. You will, however, force a change in behaviour.

B) Let ex take 100% custody

As a bonus, possibly don't see your kids for months. That said, keeps your vulnerable relatives safe.

C) Mind your own fucking business

If the ex is only bubbling with one other family, the risks are probably still really low.
But what happens if the OP can prove it is not an isolated incident and not just one with other family? Would it be considered an urgent matter?
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Options:

A) Take 100% custody temporarily

As a bonus, lose a few tens of thousands of dollars in the inevitable massive court battle required.

The likely result is that your ex will promise not to see the other family again, so you won't actually get 100% custody. You will, however, force a change in behaviour.

B) Let ex take 100% custody

As a bonus, possibly don't see your kids for months. That said, keeps your vulnerable relatives safe.

C) Mind your own fucking business

If the ex is only bubbling with one other family, the risks are probably still really low.
D) Present the hearsay evidence gathered from a child to the court


THIS ALWAYS WORKS IN COURT! JUDGES LOVE WHEN PARENT INTERROGATE THEIR CHILDREN ABOUT WHAT HAPPENS IN AT THE OTHER PARENT'S HOME AND PUT IT IN A PUBLIC RECORD!!!! IT TOTALLY DEMONSTRATES YOUR A BETTER PARENT WHEN YOU DO THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
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But what happens if the OP can prove it is not an isolated incident and not just one with other family? Would it be considered an urgent matter?
Now... for something helpful read this thread:

https://www.ottawadivorce.com/forum/...ad.php?t=23077

Pay close attention to the wise words of the Honourable Mr. Justice Pazaratz.
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Now... for something helpful read this thread:

https://www.ottawadivorce.com/forum/...ad.php?t=23077

Pay close attention to the wise words of the Honourable Mr. Justice Pazaratz.

Did you see the news about the current case he is mulling over? Mom took three teens to NL and they are sheltering there until Ontario reopens due to their mental health issues. Dad wants them returned immediately. Pazaratz is concerned about youngest kids mental health returning to Ontario.


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But what happens if the OP can prove it is not an isolated incident and not just one with other family? Would it be considered an urgent matter?
As Tayken subtly alluded to in red and CAPS, it depends on how one "proves" that it is not an isolated incident.

He is right, for most people the only proof would be dragging the kids in, which is an easy way to get a judge pissed off at you.
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As Tayken subtly alluded to in red and CAPS, it depends on how one "proves" that it is not an isolated incident.

He is right, for most people the only proof would be dragging the kids in, which is an easy way to get a judge pissed off at you.
It wouldn't involve testimony from the children. It would be via text message and publicly posted social media photos.
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If somebody was dumb enough to repeatedly post pictures of them breaking quarantine, that might be interesting. I guess if they have pictures of them doing it on a bunch of different days, clearly tagging it as being since lockdown started on December 26th, you might be able to pull it off.

Note that before Dec 26th, you were allowed to gather with people. It may not have been a good move, or recommended, but it was allowed.
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