FB: My new partner had a lot of those types of issues when we first met.
He'd get tense and apologize over odd things. Like once we went to the movies and only the front 1/4 of the theater was available and we sat there and he kept apologizing. I kept telling him the seats were great and after he told me that his ex would have had a meltdown.
He also wasn't "allowed" to nap on weekends or to sleep late even though he worked a 50-60 hour workweek and had a business due to her spending habits. She used to nag the crap out of him and freak out all the time. Many times over things he had zero control over. Everything was an issue for her that he had to '"fix." He's a nice, docile, peace-loving guy so she just beat him down over time.
It took a long time before he finally relaxed and didn't get tense in certain circumstances with me. He finds it really hard to believe that he put up with her crap for so long. I have the same feelings about my ex so it helps that I'm not dealing with it alone. It helps you heal when you have someone who understands what you've been through.
He'd get tense and apologize over odd things. Like once we went to the movies and only the front 1/4 of the theater was available and we sat there and he kept apologizing. I kept telling him the seats were great and after he told me that his ex would have had a meltdown.
He also wasn't "allowed" to nap on weekends or to sleep late even though he worked a 50-60 hour workweek and had a business due to her spending habits. She used to nag the crap out of him and freak out all the time. Many times over things he had zero control over. Everything was an issue for her that he had to '"fix." He's a nice, docile, peace-loving guy so she just beat him down over time.
It took a long time before he finally relaxed and didn't get tense in certain circumstances with me. He finds it really hard to believe that he put up with her crap for so long. I have the same feelings about my ex so it helps that I'm not dealing with it alone. It helps you heal when you have someone who understands what you've been through.
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