A little further to this thread:
http://www.ottawadivorce.com/forum/f...es-work-18708/
What would people suggest, when you are trying to bring up school issues to the other parent (they are the main problem with school issues - but I don't state that in emails), but;
- emails are intentionally ignored
- when other parent finally does actually respond to email (I'll have to check - it's been like weeks at least, since she has actually done this, perhaps more - it totally surprised me), she doesn't speak to any of the issues you have raised, or also doesn't offer anything from her end, about how to help resolve this
ex.
- I looked into my EAP and work benefits, to see if there is something that may assist D6. I asked her if there is anything she knows of on her end, to assist?
- I suggested again, that as easy thing to resolve would be homework and D6's school stuff simply follow her between our houses, painting it as a "one less thing for D6 to have to worry about". It seems to be causing her stress, and that is one of the issues teacher is raising.
- I haven't heard from ex at all on this, so I made sure to outline the concerns from teacher. Stated that, I'm not sure which issues teacher may have already spoke to you about, but I'll let you know everything that was relayed to me, so I have given you everthing that teacher mentioned.
For that, I get back an email within 2 minutes of her reading mine, which basically ignores anything D6 related, and ex basically states;
- about time teacher spoke to you, she was supposed to do that (blames teacher)
- claims she has spoke to me about all of this in person (you know, during our brief child pickup exchanges, where most of the time, she's being hostile - she has never mentioned any of this to me. The most she has ever said was "she doesn't have homework".)
-she does state she met with teacher over a month ago, and she's doing "what I can" at home - again, none of this was communicated to me, by her, including issues. "doing what i can". In response to which issues?
- telling me I don't have to send her an extended explanation of issues, as she's already had this conversation with teacher at school, long ago, and already knew about this long ago.
- congratulating me, for finally picking up a phone and calling the school - telling me, that's how I should be informed of issues, not from her, and not by asking questions with comments written in parent/teacher booklet (again, she's pointing to that, previous thread explains, she scratches out my notes) (she seems to miss that I'm trying to address D6 issues with her, not simply looking to be informed of issues from her- there's a reason I have to go to school directly already now - and the reason I have to go there in person often, to get school info and speak to teacher - it's her)
- finishes her quick response, with insulting me, and asking where's my "out of town" notice.
She "sees my ugly face 4 times a week open ur damn mouth and communicate for once! I told you, I don't email!"
About a couple of minutes after I got this response from her, I got another email from her that told me to ignore the 'out of town" thing, as she must have finally got around to seeing that email, which I already sent to her much prior.
I get read-notifications when she first opens and reads an email.
Her "response" she sent literally within a couple of minutes to me...and its this kind of garbage.
http://www.ottawadivorce.com/forum/f...es-work-18708/
What would people suggest, when you are trying to bring up school issues to the other parent (they are the main problem with school issues - but I don't state that in emails), but;
- emails are intentionally ignored
- when other parent finally does actually respond to email (I'll have to check - it's been like weeks at least, since she has actually done this, perhaps more - it totally surprised me), she doesn't speak to any of the issues you have raised, or also doesn't offer anything from her end, about how to help resolve this
ex.
- I looked into my EAP and work benefits, to see if there is something that may assist D6. I asked her if there is anything she knows of on her end, to assist?
- I suggested again, that as easy thing to resolve would be homework and D6's school stuff simply follow her between our houses, painting it as a "one less thing for D6 to have to worry about". It seems to be causing her stress, and that is one of the issues teacher is raising.
- I haven't heard from ex at all on this, so I made sure to outline the concerns from teacher. Stated that, I'm not sure which issues teacher may have already spoke to you about, but I'll let you know everything that was relayed to me, so I have given you everthing that teacher mentioned.
For that, I get back an email within 2 minutes of her reading mine, which basically ignores anything D6 related, and ex basically states;
- about time teacher spoke to you, she was supposed to do that (blames teacher)
- claims she has spoke to me about all of this in person (you know, during our brief child pickup exchanges, where most of the time, she's being hostile - she has never mentioned any of this to me. The most she has ever said was "she doesn't have homework".)
-she does state she met with teacher over a month ago, and she's doing "what I can" at home - again, none of this was communicated to me, by her, including issues. "doing what i can". In response to which issues?
- telling me I don't have to send her an extended explanation of issues, as she's already had this conversation with teacher at school, long ago, and already knew about this long ago.
- congratulating me, for finally picking up a phone and calling the school - telling me, that's how I should be informed of issues, not from her, and not by asking questions with comments written in parent/teacher booklet (again, she's pointing to that, previous thread explains, she scratches out my notes) (she seems to miss that I'm trying to address D6 issues with her, not simply looking to be informed of issues from her- there's a reason I have to go to school directly already now - and the reason I have to go there in person often, to get school info and speak to teacher - it's her)
- finishes her quick response, with insulting me, and asking where's my "out of town" notice.
She "sees my ugly face 4 times a week open ur damn mouth and communicate for once! I told you, I don't email!"
About a couple of minutes after I got this response from her, I got another email from her that told me to ignore the 'out of town" thing, as she must have finally got around to seeing that email, which I already sent to her much prior.
I get read-notifications when she first opens and reads an email.
Her "response" she sent literally within a couple of minutes to me...and its this kind of garbage.
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