I'll try to put the points in as clearly as possible:
- after 3.5 years was left without any notice for a married woman
- had to find a new place to live and was homeless for about a month, because he moved ASAP back in with his parents, rent free, with the new woman (had to move back to my home province to live with my brother for over a month)
- was told at the time that I could have the laptop that he was paying for, since I used it all the time anyways, and he had 3 other computers, and I had none.
- during the relationship I paid all of the rent for almost 2 years, and paid 3/4 of the rent for the rest of the duration, so that he could pay his student loans.
- 6 months later he's DEMANDING that I give him the laptop back, or pay the payment for it, which I can't afford, due to still owing damage deposit, and connection fees for my new apartment, plus trying to get caught up on the bills that I was behind on because of the financial burden from before because I was paying most of the bills.
So I'm wondering, I'm not greedy or anything, I haven't got any sort of computer at home to use for my job if I just give it back to him. He just built himself a brand new $3000 computer like 3 weeks before he left me (not sure if that matters or not..) and has several others.
I just want to brace myself for what to expect, because I've gotten nothing from this whole situation but pain and heartache, and I've been nothing but nice to him about everything (I gave him EVERYTHING he's ever had that might have gotten packed up in the chaos of moving, since it was my responsibility to pack up the apartment we had previously)
Anyways that's the long and short of it, any suggestions, or any further details that might be needed? Thanks in advance for any sort of advice. I just want this over with, its 6 months after the fact and just when I try to move on, this comes out of the woodwork.
- after 3.5 years was left without any notice for a married woman
- had to find a new place to live and was homeless for about a month, because he moved ASAP back in with his parents, rent free, with the new woman (had to move back to my home province to live with my brother for over a month)
- was told at the time that I could have the laptop that he was paying for, since I used it all the time anyways, and he had 3 other computers, and I had none.
- during the relationship I paid all of the rent for almost 2 years, and paid 3/4 of the rent for the rest of the duration, so that he could pay his student loans.
- 6 months later he's DEMANDING that I give him the laptop back, or pay the payment for it, which I can't afford, due to still owing damage deposit, and connection fees for my new apartment, plus trying to get caught up on the bills that I was behind on because of the financial burden from before because I was paying most of the bills.
So I'm wondering, I'm not greedy or anything, I haven't got any sort of computer at home to use for my job if I just give it back to him. He just built himself a brand new $3000 computer like 3 weeks before he left me (not sure if that matters or not..) and has several others.
I just want to brace myself for what to expect, because I've gotten nothing from this whole situation but pain and heartache, and I've been nothing but nice to him about everything (I gave him EVERYTHING he's ever had that might have gotten packed up in the chaos of moving, since it was my responsibility to pack up the apartment we had previously)
Anyways that's the long and short of it, any suggestions, or any further details that might be needed? Thanks in advance for any sort of advice. I just want this over with, its 6 months after the fact and just when I try to move on, this comes out of the woodwork.
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