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Old 08-11-2019, 12:59 PM
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"Around the same age, experimented as a teen but couldn't afford it or find a way to get it. Was def my drug of choice. Unfortunately now I can and found too many ways to get it. Hard habit to break I envy you guys that did"
This ^, to me, sounds like your STBX has a drug problem.

Unfortunately, *This^ is not what the man has said. *This^ is what you are making up and putting into the guys mouth and feeding into OP's head. Same type of crap that takes place at women shelter homes...

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Old 08-11-2019, 03:17 PM
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The house belongs to both man and woman of a marriage.

Children aren't "your" family, nor are they material property like the house is.

Children are family to both mother and father.
Except it is her family..... he is not the kidsí father...
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Old 08-11-2019, 03:20 PM
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Unfortunately, *This^ is not what the man has said. *This^ is what you are making up and putting into the guys mouth and feeding into OP's head. Same type of crap that takes place at women shelter homes...
What?!? Iím so confused now. Arabian wasnít the first one to say this, she is not ďfeeding this into the OPís headĒ

That quote was literally the OPís own quote. You were the one who left out part of it in your original comment lol
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Old 08-11-2019, 03:49 PM
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Unfortunately, *This^ is not what the man has said. *This^ is what you are making up and putting into the guys mouth and feeding into OP's head. Same type of crap that takes place at women shelter homes...
perhaps read the entire thread before shooting off your mouth?

I copied & pasted this from her post.
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Old 08-11-2019, 04:44 PM
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The house belongs to both man and woman of a marriage.

Children aren't "your" family, nor are they material property like the house is.

Children are family to both mother and father.
He is not the biological father of my children. Thankfully, we don't have kids together.
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Old 08-11-2019, 04:54 PM
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That was verbatim what he posted. He also posted one asking: "Q4u- when you hit rock bottom, then hit it again, you know you have an addiction and it's destroying every aspect of your life lost all friends yet you're too afraid to tell anyone how do you break the chain? What snapped you out?"

I would post the actual tweets but I don't know how. These are his posts exactly as posted. I have nothing to gain but accusing him falsely. Either way, I'm leaving and either way, my children aren't his. The only difference is, I'm more scared now that I know he's being influenced chemically and I've heard of cocaine psychosis. This is about genuine fear about asking him to leave. Not about custody. Not about money. Just fearful and wondering the safest way to proceed. Lawyers tell you they're not trained in psychology and the counsellors say they don't know the legal ramifications. I'm trying to blend both in the safest manner possible. I'd like my children to have a mother at the end of this.
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Old 08-11-2019, 11:13 PM
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Iím pretty sure you can file for exclusive possession but not be in the home temporarily for a couple of months. Get your paper work ready. Donít tell him. Leave for a bit and have him served. Donít stay in the house and let him have access to you or your children.

Donít try to diagnose him. Get out and keep safe. Also remember that a piece of paper (such as a court order for possession or a restraining order) means nothing. A police officer told me that when my ex was charged. He told me to get a safety plan together and stick to it.


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Old 08-11-2019, 11:16 PM
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Yes, looks like that was a copy paste error on my part. Not sure what happened there.

I use this site on a cellphone.

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Old 08-11-2019, 11:36 PM
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He is not the biological father of my children. Thankfully, we don't have kids together.
How long has he known kids for? Do the kids see him as a father figure? Will you have any interest in seeking child support from him? Will he have any interest in wanting to see the kids? Do the kids have any interest in wanting to keep in contact with him?
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Old 08-12-2019, 08:19 AM
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We've been married six years. The kids liked him for the first two years because he was fun. Two years in he became a total recluse. Aside from work, he only came out of the bedroom at dinner and didn't talk to anyone. Just sat and ate his meal, put his plate in the dishwasher and back upstairs he went. The kids resent that he's lived here without helping around the house at all...doesn't cook, doesn't help clean up after meals, doesn't shovel, doesn't take the garbage out, doesn't mow the lawn....nothing. He doesn't talk to them and they don't talk to him. He even has jealousy toward my son and says I treat him like my husband. It's sick and twisted. I don't want any support from him, nor do the kids want a relationship with him. His own biological son has refused to talk to him for the past two years, though I've never been told why by either of them. My husband claims he doesn't know why but now I'm questioning that.
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