My 9 year old son has been talking with us constantly about how he would like to have more time at our house. He currently is on a 50-50 schedule. He sat down with paper and pen, drew out a calendar and clearly marked where he would like to be each day of the week. He said that "his" schedule would make him happier.
While we would welcome more time with him at our house, I have no idea how this would be received at my ex's house. This change in schedule would shift the balance to more of a 60-40 split, with us having more of the time.
I tried to explain to him that I made an agreement with his mom a long time ago about how the schedule was to be, and that we made it to be fair to everyone - however that doesn't sway him. We asked him to discuss it with his Mom himself, and he did in a vague way. He said she told him that, "she just wants me to be happy!"
So what do we do? If we don't at least ask, my son will be mad and disappointed with us. However we have a shaky relationship at best with my ex and I don't want her to freak out.
Any suggestions on how to proceed with this one?
While we would welcome more time with him at our house, I have no idea how this would be received at my ex's house. This change in schedule would shift the balance to more of a 60-40 split, with us having more of the time.
I tried to explain to him that I made an agreement with his mom a long time ago about how the schedule was to be, and that we made it to be fair to everyone - however that doesn't sway him. We asked him to discuss it with his Mom himself, and he did in a vague way. He said she told him that, "she just wants me to be happy!"
So what do we do? If we don't at least ask, my son will be mad and disappointed with us. However we have a shaky relationship at best with my ex and I don't want her to freak out.
Any suggestions on how to proceed with this one?
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