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I am going to more or less take at face value the majority of your points and based on that propose the following:
Given the belief that dad is only doing this for the reduction in CS to offset, perhaps find a way to up the summer time in such a way that he can reach the 40% threshold for CS, but request majority school time in order to assist your son with his special needs. With the two extra overnights in the 4 week cycle and more summer time, it may reach 40%. (didn't actually try to calculate it)
If his motive is purely financial, this may do it for him and would still give you the time with your kids to help them with school that you believe is in the kids best interest.
I can appreciate it's quite a dilemma when after 8 years he suddenly wants to change what was acceptable to him for all of those years. Not an easy thing for you. Just try to look as objectively as you can to the pros and cons for the kids. If you do decide to go with the 50/50, no need to base it around his schedule. He will have to deal with 50/50 on week about or whatever consistent 50/50 schedule you offer. He doesn't get to have just his days off and only his schedule taken into consideration.
I am going to more or less take at face value the majority of your points and based on that propose the following:
Given the belief that dad is only doing this for the reduction in CS to offset, perhaps find a way to up the summer time in such a way that he can reach the 40% threshold for CS, but request majority school time in order to assist your son with his special needs. With the two extra overnights in the 4 week cycle and more summer time, it may reach 40%. (didn't actually try to calculate it)
If his motive is purely financial, this may do it for him and would still give you the time with your kids to help them with school that you believe is in the kids best interest.
I can appreciate it's quite a dilemma when after 8 years he suddenly wants to change what was acceptable to him for all of those years. Not an easy thing for you. Just try to look as objectively as you can to the pros and cons for the kids. If you do decide to go with the 50/50, no need to base it around his schedule. He will have to deal with 50/50 on week about or whatever consistent 50/50 schedule you offer. He doesn't get to have just his days off and only his schedule taken into consideration.
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