My mom was very emotionally abusive due to her mental illness. It impacted all of my decisions until I was 25. My doc was the one who pointed out how it impacted MY emotional health and I put my foot down. I felt very guilty for a long time but after I did it my life changed. I also set boundaries with other members of my family and I was finally able to really heal and some of my own emotional issues went away.
Yes she will feel guilty and yes her father will be upset but she is not responsible for his emotional well being. She also does not deserve to be treated badly for being an adult and making her own choices. He does not get to dictate. She is making an effort (a super effort if you ask me) to have a relationship and he is squandering it). His actions are emotional abuse and its not healthy.
I would also recommend she speak to someone to help her understand its not her fault.
Yes she will feel guilty and yes her father will be upset but she is not responsible for his emotional well being. She also does not deserve to be treated badly for being an adult and making her own choices. He does not get to dictate. She is making an effort (a super effort if you ask me) to have a relationship and he is squandering it). His actions are emotional abuse and its not healthy.
I would also recommend she speak to someone to help her understand its not her fault.
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