How would you handle the following situation?
My stepson's mom has informed us that she would like to take my stepson to see a specialist, and asked if we could recommend anyone. (She is fully aware that I am very informed with regards to doctors, and have seen many personally.)
My husband and I recommended a fantastic doctor that we see regularly, and offered to take the child for an appointment with our doctor.
Well, my stepson's mom declined and specified that SHE would be the one taking the child to see doctors, and that SHE would choose a doctor close to her home, as one close to us is too far for her to drive to. She also indicated that we are welcome to attend if we wish to be involved in the child's health and education.
How do you deal with such double standards?
Why is it okay for her to expect us to drive 2 hours to attend an appointment in her home town, yet not okay for her to drive 2 hours to attend an appointment in our city?
Would it be wrong for us to take the child to our doctor of choice anyways... to get a "second opinion?"
She doesn't trust us to provide her with information we obtain at appointments, yet expects that we trust her to provide us with the information she obtains. How is that fair?
Any thoughts on how we should respond?
My stepson's mom has informed us that she would like to take my stepson to see a specialist, and asked if we could recommend anyone. (She is fully aware that I am very informed with regards to doctors, and have seen many personally.)
My husband and I recommended a fantastic doctor that we see regularly, and offered to take the child for an appointment with our doctor.
Well, my stepson's mom declined and specified that SHE would be the one taking the child to see doctors, and that SHE would choose a doctor close to her home, as one close to us is too far for her to drive to. She also indicated that we are welcome to attend if we wish to be involved in the child's health and education.
How do you deal with such double standards?
Why is it okay for her to expect us to drive 2 hours to attend an appointment in her home town, yet not okay for her to drive 2 hours to attend an appointment in our city?
Would it be wrong for us to take the child to our doctor of choice anyways... to get a "second opinion?"
She doesn't trust us to provide her with information we obtain at appointments, yet expects that we trust her to provide us with the information she obtains. How is that fair?
Any thoughts on how we should respond?
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