My Exwife and I have been separated just over a year now.
Her choice. Should not have been a surprise in hindsight.
I was re-introduced to a terrific woman that I had known very causually through other friends, a few months after the separation.
She has been separated for about 3 years and most of the issues involving her and her ex have been sorted.
She has a great job, owns her own home and 3 terrific kids (I have two still at home)
My ex has been unmoving in her willingness to allow me to have a relationship with my children. Other than EOW and one dinner a week, that is all I get. Prior to separation I was very active in their lives.
I brought a motion for an Access Assessment and it came back that I should have more access. Not as much as I wanted but more. Because it came back with more access, she has started a campaign with the CAS. Two complaints in two weeks after the accessment became available. Both unfounded but both needing followup and documentation from social workers.
There have been issues around the selling of our matrimonial home, that I currently still reside in and have been paying for.
For the last 9 months I have been providing 70% of my net pay for CS and SS.
I have many posts on all these issues.
With that as a backdrop, my girlfriend says to me last night that she is feeling "like the other woman" and she does not get enough of my time.
I am trying to deal with an ex who is trying to ruin me financially, emotionally and any other way she can.
I am trying to help my children through this difficult time.
What can I say to my girlfriend to help her understand that she is not "the other woman" and she is so important to me that I am prepared to walk away from my home and a good chunk of my financial future for her?
Since meeting her she has been so giving of herself to me and my kids. I really don't think I could have made it through the last 6 months without her.
However, I have apparently "changed". I am not the same person I was during the first 4 months of our relationship.
Don't quite know what to say to that.
Any thoughts?
Anyway, thanks for letting me vent today.
Her choice. Should not have been a surprise in hindsight.
I was re-introduced to a terrific woman that I had known very causually through other friends, a few months after the separation.
She has been separated for about 3 years and most of the issues involving her and her ex have been sorted.
She has a great job, owns her own home and 3 terrific kids (I have two still at home)
My ex has been unmoving in her willingness to allow me to have a relationship with my children. Other than EOW and one dinner a week, that is all I get. Prior to separation I was very active in their lives.
I brought a motion for an Access Assessment and it came back that I should have more access. Not as much as I wanted but more. Because it came back with more access, she has started a campaign with the CAS. Two complaints in two weeks after the accessment became available. Both unfounded but both needing followup and documentation from social workers.
There have been issues around the selling of our matrimonial home, that I currently still reside in and have been paying for.
For the last 9 months I have been providing 70% of my net pay for CS and SS.
I have many posts on all these issues.
With that as a backdrop, my girlfriend says to me last night that she is feeling "like the other woman" and she does not get enough of my time.
I am trying to deal with an ex who is trying to ruin me financially, emotionally and any other way she can.
I am trying to help my children through this difficult time.
What can I say to my girlfriend to help her understand that she is not "the other woman" and she is so important to me that I am prepared to walk away from my home and a good chunk of my financial future for her?
Since meeting her she has been so giving of herself to me and my kids. I really don't think I could have made it through the last 6 months without her.
However, I have apparently "changed". I am not the same person I was during the first 4 months of our relationship.
Don't quite know what to say to that.
Any thoughts?
Anyway, thanks for letting me vent today.
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