I had my divorce certificate included with my divorce. It was sent to me. Very anti-climatic event, I just stuffed it in a file with all my other legal papers.
As it turns out, according to our divorce judgement, the whole process could start over again. As of January 2014 SS is up for review!
In my case, certain things in life are not just "death and taxes" but "family court, death and taxes."
Have you ever considered to just make a slow gradual tapering off of Spousal Support rather than fight it out every once in a while. Most payors I think want to just see there is a light at the end of the tunnel....
My divorce judgement does indeed "taper things off" quite nicely for my ex.
My ex has opted to take me to court 2 x/yr minimum to try to fight a divorce judgement that he fully agreed to (with experienced legal counsel). My legal bills are astronomical. He owes tens of thousands in arrears.
The last time in court (2 weeks ago) the judge specifically told his lawyer that he sees absolutely no reason to overturn the divorce judgement. He has been told this time and time again (at least 8 times by 8 different judges). I am powerless to stop him from continuing on his quest. This is a game for him.
Give him a break? Where's my "light at the end of the tunnel?"
My divorce judgement does indeed "taper things off" quite nicely for my ex.
My ex has opted to take me to court 2 x/yr minimum to try to fight a divorce judgement that he fully agreed to (with experienced legal counsel). My legal bills are astronomical. He owes tens of thousands in arrears.
The last time in court (2 weeks ago) the judge specifically told his lawyer that he sees absolutely no reason to overturn the divorce judgement. He has been told this time and time again (at least 8 times by 8 different judges). I am powerless to stop him from continuing on his quest. This is a game for him.
Give him a break? Where's my "light at the end of the tunnel?"
Does he get dinged with your costs each time? He should, and one would think that would be enough to stop this insanity.
Judge told his lawyer the matter of post-divorce costs would have to be addressed before any review of the divorce.
So there is my "gift" to my ex. He hasn't been hit with costs for 80% of the nonsense.
We are entitled to double costs and I believe my lawyer is currently working on this. Because we were continually in court matters got put over and melded into others. My ex has been protected by bankruptcy so enforcing costs would have been futile up to this point. Discharge is pending so that will change things. I wouldn't be surprised if he left the country.
I got my divorce on October 5. I was already in a committed relationship and my ex and I had been getting along. He also has a partner. Oct 5 was a Saturday - I barely gave it a thought. He called me Monday asking me if I knew was Saturday was. I said Yes. He then asked how I felt. I said it was just another day. He said "you know when someone is dying but when they die it is still a shock?". I said "yes" and he said "that's how I felt".
Even though hes in a committed relationship he hasn't really moved on completely. He has told me he will always love me.
I'm now remarried and happy as a clam. All is well in our family! Except he needs to truly move on and get on with his life. I guess if he feels so sad and regrets our divorce he shouldn't have slept around on me for 25 years. Karma is a bitch.
Sax- I agree. Sometimes its just too late. My ex also came to me after the divorce apologizing and crying. Although it hurt me to see him say the words that I had spent so many years to hear....I just felt numb and i was not even in a relationship then and now. I know he loves me and has changed, and I have changed too, but sometimes just love is not enough. The trust that was shattered will never come back.
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