Hi Everybody,
Thank you for reading this and any advice you can offer. I want to avoid giving too many details so that I don't identify myself.
I am separated from my partner. We were married for 5 years. My partner was finishing school before we got married. We were living together during that time and for 3 years before we got married. After we got married my partner was all set to start a lucrative career but seemed to lack the motivation or focus to actually continue with it. About three years ago my partner decided to get into an entirely different field and started a second lucrative career. They now make approximately the same amount of money as me.
During our relationship, I paid for almost everything. Mortgage. Utilities. Groceries. Insurance. Etc. My partner has contributed in some ways like paying smaller bills (e.g. internet, Spotify, etc.) and buying small ticket items for the house (some furniture, cookware, etc.) and occasionally buying food. My partner also paid for their own living (clothing, car, etc.). I took care of most of the chores around the house as my partner was often absent for long stretches of time and did not have the energy or motivation to help around the house. In the last year or so, they would be gone for days or weeks on end for work.
Although they have never shared their finances with me, I know they have put themselves into a great deal of debt chasing two careers. As a result, I would definitely be at a disadvantage with respect to an equalization payment. I am wondering if the fact that I essentially carried the load for 8 years and did not receive any significant help from my partner would help me in any way. I'm content to give them some money but I certainly don't want to give them half since they have already benefited from essentially having free room and board so they could do whatever they wanted.
Many thanks,
Dazed And Abused
Thank you for reading this and any advice you can offer. I want to avoid giving too many details so that I don't identify myself.
I am separated from my partner. We were married for 5 years. My partner was finishing school before we got married. We were living together during that time and for 3 years before we got married. After we got married my partner was all set to start a lucrative career but seemed to lack the motivation or focus to actually continue with it. About three years ago my partner decided to get into an entirely different field and started a second lucrative career. They now make approximately the same amount of money as me.
During our relationship, I paid for almost everything. Mortgage. Utilities. Groceries. Insurance. Etc. My partner has contributed in some ways like paying smaller bills (e.g. internet, Spotify, etc.) and buying small ticket items for the house (some furniture, cookware, etc.) and occasionally buying food. My partner also paid for their own living (clothing, car, etc.). I took care of most of the chores around the house as my partner was often absent for long stretches of time and did not have the energy or motivation to help around the house. In the last year or so, they would be gone for days or weeks on end for work.
Although they have never shared their finances with me, I know they have put themselves into a great deal of debt chasing two careers. As a result, I would definitely be at a disadvantage with respect to an equalization payment. I am wondering if the fact that I essentially carried the load for 8 years and did not receive any significant help from my partner would help me in any way. I'm content to give them some money but I certainly don't want to give them half since they have already benefited from essentially having free room and board so they could do whatever they wanted.
Many thanks,
Dazed And Abused
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