Thanks rockscan for the backstory. I guess a divorce never ends. I'm sure I'll end up in the same boat in a few years, the ex will want to reopen everything
Really messed up that they want to go back to changing custody / visitation after 5 years when all was good and he definitely doesn't seem stable...
I'm currently dealing with someone that has BPD-like and NDP-like behavior (I am not a doctor so cannot provide an official diagnostic... ) and it's a nightmare. Google "BPD divorce" to give you an idea.. they say divorce with a BPD is hell without kids, and even worse with kids. Suicide threats, assaults, jail, emotional abuse to kids, ... There's even a book about it (splitting, by bill eddy)
I used to fear going to court but realized that I had no other choice when I saw that I couldn't negotiate. She was saying that she made lots of compromise in the separation agreement but I don't think that I could find a single one. She wanted to specify where I could live (within <3km from the kids school, until they are done university) because she did not want to live too far from the kids. I realized that you cannot reason with these people and they absolutely want to win. I just hope it won't drag out for years.
I've never seen my kids so relaxed. They sleep well. Eat well. Don't get angry as much. What a change it's been for them. I just hope that the court sees things the same way.
Really messed up that they want to go back to changing custody / visitation after 5 years when all was good and he definitely doesn't seem stable...
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I used to fear going to court but realized that I had no other choice when I saw that I couldn't negotiate. She was saying that she made lots of compromise in the separation agreement but I don't think that I could find a single one. She wanted to specify where I could live (within <3km from the kids school, until they are done university) because she did not want to live too far from the kids. I realized that you cannot reason with these people and they absolutely want to win. I just hope it won't drag out for years.
I've never seen my kids so relaxed. They sleep well. Eat well. Don't get angry as much. What a change it's been for them. I just hope that the court sees things the same way.
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