Just do your homework, be diligent and treat it more seriously than your job. You can do it, I encourage everybody to self rep
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Originally posted by Links17 View PostJust do your homework, be diligent and treat it more seriously than your job. You can do it, I encourage everybody to self rep
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So I've drafted an offer to settle per Tayken's advice in hopes of getting the access rolling with the exchange centre. The more I look into the examples I'm seeing, it seems that these are normally served right before a motion, or for final settlement.
Since I am awaiting an OCL disclosure I'm not sure if this is the appropriate way to try getting the interim order updated. Is it ok to just make an offer to settle and only specify changes to the interim order, or should I be doing something different? My first week trying to self rep is nerve racking. I'm afraid I'm going to make some critical mistake.
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Originally posted by paco View PostYou should avoid supervised access, if you're using this centre just for transfer exchanges that's fine
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Originally posted by ninehundredt View PostI'm just (supposed to be) using the centre for exchanges. The time and location are incorrect on the interim order. I've sent a written request to her lawyer to get the ball rolling on changing it. He has not responded. Per Tayken's advice the next step is to send an offer to settle. She's continuing to use access to the kids as a bargaining chip.
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Originally posted by ninehundredt View PostI'm just (supposed to be) using the centre for exchanges. The time and location are incorrect on the interim order. I've sent a written request to her lawyer to get the ball rolling on changing it. He has not responded. Per Tayken's advice the next step is to send an offer to settle. She's continuing to use access to the kids as a bargaining chip.
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Originally posted by paco View Post...and one more thing, split the cost with your ex, in this way she's accountable as well and in a near future you may find a different way to transfer your kids, you don't want to pay for this indefinitely, it's an expensive service though. In my case I had no choice but to pay for this, next year we review access, transfers and vacation period.
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Originally posted by ninehundredt View PostShe is insisting on supervised exchanges, but is ignoring my requests to modify the order to get the centre exchanges going. It's mind numbing. I know where you're coming from. The fees for the service will be split between us if this ever gets resolved.
So my advise to you is be carefully what you sign and never accept Supervision with your kids.
Supervised transfer exchanges means that a 3rd party takes the kids from mom and bring them to father, and viceversa, as per access schedule, no notes, no questions asked.
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Originally posted by ninehundredt View PostShe is insisting on supervised exchanges, but is ignoring my requests to modify the order to get the centre exchanges going. It's mind numbing. I know where you're coming from. The fees for the service will be split between us if this ever gets resolved.
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Originally posted by arabian View PostThis is very good, insightful information Paco.
I am curious. How much does this cost at an access centre?
It's $100 +tax per transfer, money that normally should go to child's RESP or to take them to Disneyland in vacation. Some centres may charge different amounts.
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Originally posted by ninehundredt View PostShe is insisting on supervised exchanges, but is ignoring my requests to modify the order to get the centre exchanges going. It's mind numbing. I know where you're coming from. The fees for the service will be split between us if this ever gets resolved.
My ex's LAO lawyer tried the same with the access ctr. I applied for exchanges only and ex apparently applied for the actual visits. I get an e-ail a month later saying "LF32 .. my client has applied to the access ctr and they seem to be still awaiting your application .. I urge you to apply soon as the waiting list is very long". Of course I replied that I 'DID NOT NEED any kind of supervision as all allegations were false (as she even now admits) .. but got no response.
Patience big guy. It's all a game to Mrs greedy, child-abusing gatekeeper and her scummy money hungry lawyer. Delay Delay Delay for status quo is the name of their game.
Good thing you're documenting everything..all delays, all denials etc. Judge will love that when you get in court. Then the judge will scrap the access ctr like mine did, saying that it's very artificial, has too long of a waiting list and .. with no evidence to justify it. A Timmy Horton's will do and bring 3rd parties and cameras if you so choose.
You need a judge to stop her quest for manufactured status quo. Believe me .. a judge WILL put the child abusing gatekeeper in her place. (Yes I call denial of access to a loving parent child abuse ... because it is in my books!). These are children .. not ammunition for personal revenge and emotional turbulence.
When you get tired, impatient or feel like quitting just think about your child's smile .. about how they use to run in to your arms saying they love you .. about how you will FIGHT your ass off for them .. because they need you to. Put a stop to this disgusting gatekeeper .. please.
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Originally posted by LovingFather32 View PostSame ol' delay tactics. Man is it ever exhausting to even read (having been through it).
My ex's LAO lawyer tried the same with the access ctr. I applied for exchanges only and ex apparently applied for the actual visits. I get an e-ail a month later saying "LF32 .. my client has applied to the access ctr and they seem to be still awaiting your application .. I urge you to apply soon as the waiting list is very long". Of course I replied that I 'DID NOT NEED any kind of supervision as all allegations were false (as she even now admits) .. but got no response.
Patience big guy. It's all a game to Mrs greedy, child-abusing gatekeeper and her scummy money hungry lawyer. Delay Delay Delay for status quo is the name of their game.
Good thing you're documenting everything..all delays, all denials etc. Judge will love that when you get in court. Then the judge will scrap the access ctr like mine did, saying that it's very artificial, has too long of a waiting list and .. with no evidence to justify it. A Timmy Horton's will do and bring 3rd parties and cameras if you so choose.
You need a judge to stop her quest for manufactured status quo. Believe me .. a judge WILL put the child abusing gatekeeper in her place. (Yes I call denial of access to a loving parent child abuse ... because it is in my books!). These are children .. not ammunition for personal revenge and emotional turbulence.
When you get tired, impatient or feel like quitting just think about your child's smile .. about how they use to run in to your arms saying they love you .. about how you will FIGHT your ass off for them .. because they need you to. Put a stop to this disgusting gatekeeper .. please.
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Originally posted by paco View PostThey all play the same game, it was burning my heart in me as I didn't see my kids for two months before I made the mistake and fall into their trap with supervised access exchange centre, big mistake, I should wait until next court session...rushing is no good.
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Paco's right. Play it slow, steady and use your head. Your ex will only have a case if you give her one. Every syllable must be reasonable and resolution-oriented. If you listen closely you can hear the shovel digging. What they seek is impulsive decisions//behaviors that can be put in ink. Trust me, they'll throw you enough lours .. swim right on past and send out another Offer To Settle/ideas for resolution. Let her fill her affidavits with garbage .. disregard them and focus on primary parent/Best Interests stuff in yours.
It's one hell of a roller coaster ride. We've been through it .. we'll help you get through it.
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