Get out and follow the advice...you must for your sake and your kids sake. I was in your shoes and I got out and am so much better for it.
The verbal abuse is continueing in my case in email and during exchanges however it is all being documented to his detriment. My kids are now involved with social workers and they are doing so well....My son will never think that the behavior he saw is appropriate.
Get employment, support yourself. We currently has 50/50 custody which is on shaky ground - the social workers do have concerns on his end...I am letting them call the shots and hoping he steps up to the plate with the kids. My ex was intentionally underemployed and I work full time in a well paying job. Because of his unwillingness to work and perpetual excuses, SS was denied and the offset CS amount was ordered based on an imputed income to him. He claimed that he could not possible work full time with 50% custody of the kids....laughable...how many single parents with 100 % custody manage full time work and do the juggle??? He got a very quick life lesson and has in the last couple of months began working more to make ends meet on his end.
The most important thing is to get out. I avoided shelters by finding very good supportive friends to help me out. Gave me a place to stay that no-one else, including the ex, knew where it was. It was not easy, but I am out now and life is 1000 times better.
Good luck.
The verbal abuse is continueing in my case in email and during exchanges however it is all being documented to his detriment. My kids are now involved with social workers and they are doing so well....My son will never think that the behavior he saw is appropriate.
Get employment, support yourself. We currently has 50/50 custody which is on shaky ground - the social workers do have concerns on his end...I am letting them call the shots and hoping he steps up to the plate with the kids. My ex was intentionally underemployed and I work full time in a well paying job. Because of his unwillingness to work and perpetual excuses, SS was denied and the offset CS amount was ordered based on an imputed income to him. He claimed that he could not possible work full time with 50% custody of the kids....laughable...how many single parents with 100 % custody manage full time work and do the juggle??? He got a very quick life lesson and has in the last couple of months began working more to make ends meet on his end.
The most important thing is to get out. I avoided shelters by finding very good supportive friends to help me out. Gave me a place to stay that no-one else, including the ex, knew where it was. It was not easy, but I am out now and life is 1000 times better.
Good luck.
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