HI All,
I have asked before for help on NCP not exercising access time, how I can enforce it and what I can do to protect my kids from being hurt. I have come to realize with the help of some of you...You can't fix stupid and that as long as I am parenting to the best of my abilities, by boys will be ok.
Well now I sit here not sure of how to parent a situation at hand and am looking for some advice....
NCP as EOW access. Since Dec 25 he has only exercised said access for a total of 4 weekends. I never know when he will be coming, or even if he will be taking the kids for the whole weekend (usually not). I usually receive and email stating "Can't grab the kids this weekend" around the Wednesday or Thursday before access weekend. Most often I can be sure that if his access is over a long weekend, he won't be taking the boys.
NCP's sister has sent me an email requesting to take our kids to her cottage for a week during the summer that happens to begin on NCP's weekend. This is a great opportunity for the kids and they LOVE their Aunt who is requesting the visit.
If I were to send the kids to the cottage could I be held in contempt for "withholding access"? Do I really have to wait for him to tell me if he is going to exercise access for that weekend? The way I'm thinking is that the kids have a chance to visit with His side of the family that they don't often see. I think I'm doing a good thing as the kids need to have relationships with all of their family.
I am looking for all comments (the Good, the Bad and the Ugly) on this matter. I think I would be doing a good thing for my kids by allowing them to go...even though it is over a NCP access weekend, but I am slightly biased to the whole situation.
I have asked before for help on NCP not exercising access time, how I can enforce it and what I can do to protect my kids from being hurt. I have come to realize with the help of some of you...You can't fix stupid and that as long as I am parenting to the best of my abilities, by boys will be ok.
Well now I sit here not sure of how to parent a situation at hand and am looking for some advice....
NCP as EOW access. Since Dec 25 he has only exercised said access for a total of 4 weekends. I never know when he will be coming, or even if he will be taking the kids for the whole weekend (usually not). I usually receive and email stating "Can't grab the kids this weekend" around the Wednesday or Thursday before access weekend. Most often I can be sure that if his access is over a long weekend, he won't be taking the boys.
NCP's sister has sent me an email requesting to take our kids to her cottage for a week during the summer that happens to begin on NCP's weekend. This is a great opportunity for the kids and they LOVE their Aunt who is requesting the visit.
If I were to send the kids to the cottage could I be held in contempt for "withholding access"? Do I really have to wait for him to tell me if he is going to exercise access for that weekend? The way I'm thinking is that the kids have a chance to visit with His side of the family that they don't often see. I think I'm doing a good thing as the kids need to have relationships with all of their family.
I am looking for all comments (the Good, the Bad and the Ugly) on this matter. I think I would be doing a good thing for my kids by allowing them to go...even though it is over a NCP access weekend, but I am slightly biased to the whole situation.
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