I am involved in a tough legal battle with my ex over my two children, and I'm convinced that she has a mental illness of some sort... probably Borderline Personality Disorder. She basically hits most of the 9 criteria for the disease, but she has never been diagnosed.
Just to put some context, here is a short list of some of the issues:
...my list of grievances is two pages, and it goes on and on just like above.
My questions are:
Just to put some context, here is a short list of some of the issues:
- instability in relationships - she is in and out of relationships almost monthly and is never able to sustain any relationships for more than a few months at the most;
- she has moved 6 times in two years - 4 times this year alone - 11 times since 2006 - sometimes, she doesn't even tell me and I have to go looking for her;
- her last husband, she married him after knowing him for a week - it lasted three months;
- she's made two false allegations of child sexual abuse against me, both were investigated thoroughly by both the police and the Children's Aid and where determined to be unfounded;
- unable to take responsibility for any of her actions whatsoever;
- an astonishing lack of empathy;
- punishes my sons for expressing wishes to see me with long time-outs and then bed;
- punishes my son because he likes pink things and likes to play with dolls;
- changes my access times unilaterally; withdrew my telephone access altogether;
- changed my son's school without consultation with me and we have joint custody;
- school wrote to us indicating that the children are dirty and that the children were coming to school without breakfast;
- my oldest son lost a molar at 6 because of tooth decay. She told me she was taking them to the dentist but she wasn't;
- she believes she has paranormal powers of divination, healing, clairvoyance and she says that she is a spirit medium (talking to the dead and angels, etc);
- pathological lying - much of the time, it's done without any reason behind it.
...my list of grievances is two pages, and it goes on and on just like above.
My questions are:
- Does it matter to the courts whether she has been diagnosed with a mental health issue? Is a diagnosis something that I should even care about or will the court simply want to know about how behaviors are impacting the children?
- If a diagnosis would strengthen my case, how can I go about getting the court to order one?
- Any professionals out there that have seen this type of thing before?
- Should I express my views in court that I have concerns about her mental health?
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