Hello Everyone,
My wife and I are just beginning our divorce process. It has been a long time coming but it is here now and trying to figure out my next steps. I won't get into all the details here now but I think that we can seperate amicably or at least with out a battle. We have been married for 16 years. We own a home and have investments but there will be no games with those. I am sure we will come to a 50/50 split without a fight. We have one son who is 14. We have heard about and read about cases where couples can avoid court and costly lawyers fees (we can't afford them!) if they can agree to particulars for the most part. There is a lot advice on what to do next but not sure what my next step is? To the courthouse for the divorce package to start a joint divorce process? Can we use the same lawyer in this situation? Do we need independant advice if we can agree ourselves on support, custody, etc? One of my biggest questions is around entitlement to SS. We are both Masters level educated (but couldn't figure this marriage thing out LOL). I supported here through her Masters and she through mine. I have higher income but she should be fine on hers. No long streatches of time out of work to care for child other than first year and one jointly agreed to year when son was 5. We moved and she was unemployed for a while but was looking for work.
I guess a lot of people start off with optimism of no fighting in the process but I really think we can do this without a huge battle and split everything and decide what to do is best for our kid. Everything I have seen on big battles is when one person tries to hide something or misrepresent in the process. I don't think that will be the case.
Any and all advice is appreciated.
H
My wife and I are just beginning our divorce process. It has been a long time coming but it is here now and trying to figure out my next steps. I won't get into all the details here now but I think that we can seperate amicably or at least with out a battle. We have been married for 16 years. We own a home and have investments but there will be no games with those. I am sure we will come to a 50/50 split without a fight. We have one son who is 14. We have heard about and read about cases where couples can avoid court and costly lawyers fees (we can't afford them!) if they can agree to particulars for the most part. There is a lot advice on what to do next but not sure what my next step is? To the courthouse for the divorce package to start a joint divorce process? Can we use the same lawyer in this situation? Do we need independant advice if we can agree ourselves on support, custody, etc? One of my biggest questions is around entitlement to SS. We are both Masters level educated (but couldn't figure this marriage thing out LOL). I supported here through her Masters and she through mine. I have higher income but she should be fine on hers. No long streatches of time out of work to care for child other than first year and one jointly agreed to year when son was 5. We moved and she was unemployed for a while but was looking for work.
I guess a lot of people start off with optimism of no fighting in the process but I really think we can do this without a huge battle and split everything and decide what to do is best for our kid. Everything I have seen on big battles is when one person tries to hide something or misrepresent in the process. I don't think that will be the case.
Any and all advice is appreciated.
H
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