I lost pretty much everything in my divorce. My ex and his g/f had "street smarts" and managed to out-manoeuvre me at lightning speed. My divorce lasted 9 months but the fall-out has been 4 years since that time. 4 years of court defending a spousal support agreement which is a fraction of money I lost.
I have survived and so will you. Houses come and go as do other "things." You are still relatively young and can amass assets once again. You may never be the top dog you are now but you will learn, in time, to adapt.
Just remember that the longer this drags out the more of your hard-earned money goes to the lawyers. Actually the lawyers are the only people who "win" in the end.
Divorce after a long marriage is devastating. It takes a lifetime to build the nest -egg and but a few months in family court to destroy it.
You can consider partial cash settlement and a gradually reducing spousal support with a very strong and specific "material change of circumstance" statement.
One positive tidbit for you to chew on: If both you and your wife considered your reaching age 55 (or whatever) as a date of retirement, then that could be a very important factor for your lawyer to consider. If you do some reading on CanLii for divorce of long-term marriages, you will note that justices do look at the mutually agreed upon age of retirement. Retirement is not always age 65. If you have specific retirement plans, which your wife was aware of, then you just may have something.....
I have survived and so will you. Houses come and go as do other "things." You are still relatively young and can amass assets once again. You may never be the top dog you are now but you will learn, in time, to adapt.
Just remember that the longer this drags out the more of your hard-earned money goes to the lawyers. Actually the lawyers are the only people who "win" in the end.
Divorce after a long marriage is devastating. It takes a lifetime to build the nest -egg and but a few months in family court to destroy it.
You can consider partial cash settlement and a gradually reducing spousal support with a very strong and specific "material change of circumstance" statement.
One positive tidbit for you to chew on: If both you and your wife considered your reaching age 55 (or whatever) as a date of retirement, then that could be a very important factor for your lawyer to consider. If you do some reading on CanLii for divorce of long-term marriages, you will note that justices do look at the mutually agreed upon age of retirement. Retirement is not always age 65. If you have specific retirement plans, which your wife was aware of, then you just may have something.....
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