I have been lurking here for a few months just leaning about things.
We have shared parenting and joint custody. The standard of living is way better and higher for the children even though I try to shield then from the difference. We have a signed agreement for child sharing and parenting plan but no agreement on finacials. I pay full table amount to her.
I recently ran out of funds and got laid off from my job so I had to fire my lawyer. (FWIW - I also I do not think she ever put a good effort into listening to my case. Just whent threw the motions (literally, I guess ) and collected retainer after retainer.)
So I filled out the paper work and served both lawyers and filed the required documents with the courthouse.
A few days later I get a letter and documents from her lawyer for me to sign giving consent to turn our parenting agreement into a Final order. There have been some wording changes in the new version. Specifically in regards to pickup and drop off the word "parents" have been replaced with the word "Parties" - is this to give her flexibility so that others instead of her can pick them up. Other changes are our names replaced with respondant and applicant. She is a very busy business woman who's main priority is her and her career. The lawyer gave me 4 days to sign or she will go to court and start a motion for the final order and make be pay her costs.
I feel that 4 days is not alot of time for me to figure out why she changed those words and if that is allowed. Can I ask for more time? Is the lawyer being reasonable or is she taking advanmtage of the fact that I have no lawyer?
Also there have been changes and if possible I would like to change some issues in the parenting agreement. Mainly transportation; my pickups have changed from a 5min walk round trip to a 1 hour drive round trip. Also would like to change a weekday after school evening and dinner to an overnight. Is there any reasonable posibility of changing that? The move was for her to get closer to her existing work and now the kids were moved out of there neighbourhood and school too. She mentioned that she was looking to move when the agreement was signed less than 3 months ago but at the time no house was purchased so I didn't know if she was serious. My ex-lawyer said I could not stop the kids from changing schools because I had less that 50%. I have since discovered I have around 43%using information I learned here)
There is no court order or agreement for finacials. But I have been paying full table amounts to her even though I now know that I have always had the kids over 40% of the time counting just the overnights when including
Holidays, vacation and P.A days. What do I have to do to reduce CS and ever get some retro back to pay off my climbing debts.
Thanks for reading my long introductory "help me email" Any thoughts on my issues?
1. What to do about the 4 days and the changed wording in the Final order consent.
2. Money is a huge problem for me right now. WHat can I do to get offest CS.
3. I would love to have a lawyer an a consultation basis but my old lawyer is not interested. Where can I get legal advice?
4. the parneting agreement requies that we use a parenting co-ordinator to resolve disputs but I can pay their retainer and being self representing the courts seem like be more cost effect approach right now ironically.
thanks for your time, and I hope to learn enough to contribute to this forum.
We have shared parenting and joint custody. The standard of living is way better and higher for the children even though I try to shield then from the difference. We have a signed agreement for child sharing and parenting plan but no agreement on finacials. I pay full table amount to her.
I recently ran out of funds and got laid off from my job so I had to fire my lawyer. (FWIW - I also I do not think she ever put a good effort into listening to my case. Just whent threw the motions (literally, I guess ) and collected retainer after retainer.)
So I filled out the paper work and served both lawyers and filed the required documents with the courthouse.
A few days later I get a letter and documents from her lawyer for me to sign giving consent to turn our parenting agreement into a Final order. There have been some wording changes in the new version. Specifically in regards to pickup and drop off the word "parents" have been replaced with the word "Parties" - is this to give her flexibility so that others instead of her can pick them up. Other changes are our names replaced with respondant and applicant. She is a very busy business woman who's main priority is her and her career. The lawyer gave me 4 days to sign or she will go to court and start a motion for the final order and make be pay her costs.
I feel that 4 days is not alot of time for me to figure out why she changed those words and if that is allowed. Can I ask for more time? Is the lawyer being reasonable or is she taking advanmtage of the fact that I have no lawyer?
Also there have been changes and if possible I would like to change some issues in the parenting agreement. Mainly transportation; my pickups have changed from a 5min walk round trip to a 1 hour drive round trip. Also would like to change a weekday after school evening and dinner to an overnight. Is there any reasonable posibility of changing that? The move was for her to get closer to her existing work and now the kids were moved out of there neighbourhood and school too. She mentioned that she was looking to move when the agreement was signed less than 3 months ago but at the time no house was purchased so I didn't know if she was serious. My ex-lawyer said I could not stop the kids from changing schools because I had less that 50%. I have since discovered I have around 43%using information I learned here)
There is no court order or agreement for finacials. But I have been paying full table amounts to her even though I now know that I have always had the kids over 40% of the time counting just the overnights when including
Holidays, vacation and P.A days. What do I have to do to reduce CS and ever get some retro back to pay off my climbing debts.
Thanks for reading my long introductory "help me email" Any thoughts on my issues?
1. What to do about the 4 days and the changed wording in the Final order consent.
2. Money is a huge problem for me right now. WHat can I do to get offest CS.
3. I would love to have a lawyer an a consultation basis but my old lawyer is not interested. Where can I get legal advice?
4. the parneting agreement requies that we use a parenting co-ordinator to resolve disputs but I can pay their retainer and being self representing the courts seem like be more cost effect approach right now ironically.
thanks for your time, and I hope to learn enough to contribute to this forum.
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