Ex and new wife want to increase time with the two youngest children (11 and 7) from every other weekend ( which has been the set schedule since seperation in 2009) to now include every Tuesday as an overnight stay (currently I drop both girls off on Tuesdays after school and they are returned at approx. 8:30pm). Daughter aged 7 is adamant that she does not want to stay over on Tuesdays and Daughter aged 11 says she is conflicted because she does not want her dad to get mad at her if she says she does not want to add a Tuesday night stay. ( Dad has previously expressed annoyance and made statements about his hurt feelings to daughter over her anxiety about going to his house)
Daughter 11 suffers from an anxiety disorder and has only recently ceased having tearful panic attacks about going to her dad's house for the alternate weekends, and I do have some concerns about rocking the boat and regressing back to the panic attacks.
However, my concern is that if I express these concerns to my ex and suggest the extra overnight is not currently in the best interests of the children and that the situation should be revisted at a later date, he'll pull out the lawyer card again and threaten me with court ( which has happened on numerous occasions since the seperation).
So... opinions anyone?
Daughter 11 suffers from an anxiety disorder and has only recently ceased having tearful panic attacks about going to her dad's house for the alternate weekends, and I do have some concerns about rocking the boat and regressing back to the panic attacks.
However, my concern is that if I express these concerns to my ex and suggest the extra overnight is not currently in the best interests of the children and that the situation should be revisted at a later date, he'll pull out the lawyer card again and threaten me with court ( which has happened on numerous occasions since the seperation).
So... opinions anyone?
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