Here's the situation pertaining to my kids:
2 young children 3 and 5
Seperated 4 months, lived in same house until Mar, STBX had a breakdown, attempted to have me removed from home but backfired and because of her mental state was taken to hospital, assesed and held for 30 days, CAS became involved because of the children. I cooperated fully during this time with CAS but felt as time went by that I had been painted as the bad guy responsible for everything and that sympathies were for my STBX but because I am a good father the extent she gets is sympathies.
I had the ability to take 1 month off of work and care for the children while she was in hospital. She has been on a leave of absence (child rearing) for the last 3 years from work.
I have been and am a very active father, very involved with the kids juggling long work hours and time with my children. I cook, clean, bathe, play do all of the things an involved parent would do.
We have nothing formal in place in regards to custody of the kids. Currently I have the kids Sun noon until tues morning and Thurs evening until Sat noon, she gets Tues/Wed and Sat AS WELL she cares for the children during the day on my days as she refuses to go back to work. I am happy with the amount of time I am getting with my kids. She had threatened previously to go after the 1 night a week and every other weekend thing which she knows would hurt me, my kids are my world. I told her I would fight that without a doubt. We have been on the above schedule since the beginning of April and has been working well. Eventually I think I'd like to go 1 week on/off so there is less movement for the kids but that will have to be decided down the road.
I believe unfortunately that the entire process is going to be difficult and will have to fight for everything. I believe she is going to paint me as an abuser, not physical although I am starting to think nothing would surprise me at this point because of how difficult to deal with she has become. I am concerned about being shafted even though I am good father, I guess I have fears of being shafted because of the stereotypes, or are they??? that fathers get screwed.
Is there anything I should be doing other than what I am to make sure I get my share of the children? Will the courts look favorably if we can't agree that I am an active father? Will her lockup in the mental facility help me?
2 young children 3 and 5
Seperated 4 months, lived in same house until Mar, STBX had a breakdown, attempted to have me removed from home but backfired and because of her mental state was taken to hospital, assesed and held for 30 days, CAS became involved because of the children. I cooperated fully during this time with CAS but felt as time went by that I had been painted as the bad guy responsible for everything and that sympathies were for my STBX but because I am a good father the extent she gets is sympathies.
I had the ability to take 1 month off of work and care for the children while she was in hospital. She has been on a leave of absence (child rearing) for the last 3 years from work.
I have been and am a very active father, very involved with the kids juggling long work hours and time with my children. I cook, clean, bathe, play do all of the things an involved parent would do.
We have nothing formal in place in regards to custody of the kids. Currently I have the kids Sun noon until tues morning and Thurs evening until Sat noon, she gets Tues/Wed and Sat AS WELL she cares for the children during the day on my days as she refuses to go back to work. I am happy with the amount of time I am getting with my kids. She had threatened previously to go after the 1 night a week and every other weekend thing which she knows would hurt me, my kids are my world. I told her I would fight that without a doubt. We have been on the above schedule since the beginning of April and has been working well. Eventually I think I'd like to go 1 week on/off so there is less movement for the kids but that will have to be decided down the road.
I believe unfortunately that the entire process is going to be difficult and will have to fight for everything. I believe she is going to paint me as an abuser, not physical although I am starting to think nothing would surprise me at this point because of how difficult to deal with she has become. I am concerned about being shafted even though I am good father, I guess I have fears of being shafted because of the stereotypes, or are they??? that fathers get screwed.
Is there anything I should be doing other than what I am to make sure I get my share of the children? Will the courts look favorably if we can't agree that I am an active father? Will her lockup in the mental facility help me?
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