I am glad you have a lawyer. I'm assuming your lawyer told you what to bring to the meeting.
Has she made any allegations of abuse?
I see nothing in the forms....there is a section in the red book "Important Facts Supporting My Claim For Divorce" with sections for Seperation, Adultery, Cruelty and they are all stricken out with a line through them including the title "Important Facts Supporting My Claim For Divorce" and none of the boxes are checked. I do know that she met with the CAS (they got involved because of the police intervention) and she claimed verbal absuse to them and their final report (although they did nothing formal other than interview myself, her and kids) indicated they felt there was domestic violence in the home but could not substantiate anything and just recommended we not be alone together...there have never been police involved other than that situation and no physical violence of any kind....yelling and screaming on both sides yes...since things have been very incommunicative with no incidents...she picks and chooses what she communicates with me about so I stopped communicating with her almost entirely...
Your lawyer will advise you on such things, but you need to be very careful. The other side may try to antagonize you or instigate something in an effort to manufacture evidence against you.
I suggest you make all exchanges of the children in a public place. If this is not possible then you should try to have a 3rd party present whenever an exchange takes place. My gut tells me a 3rd party who you trust and is (or at least was) also a friend of hers would be best.
Also, you cannot stop communicating with her! You need to communicate because it is in the best interests of the children. The inability of two parents to communicate is a strike against joint custody. This is why she will likely be instructed by her lawyer at some point to make a conscious effort to create conflict whenever she can. Do not bite! Attempt to reduce conflict in a forward-moving, positive, child-focused manner.
I have many emails communicating to her about the kids etc and she just ignores them, that should show her unwillingness to communicate what is in the best interest of the kids...anyways, lawyer monday, he'll tell me the goods and go from there, thanks!
technology has moved on I use to carry a mini tape recorder with me when picking up the kids....but it's easier to just put a cam on the the dashboard and hit the record button.....easier than a third party....anyways your in the begining of this...you got a strong position .....why becasue ur ex's lawyer knows exactly how far ur ex can financially take this...expect a shiz storm at the begining.....second it's a long process ..death of a million paper cuts is the next position....then it's wat everyone else says above....at the end it's exactly family (law) it comes from a trail....and 50-50 is the law unless ur an axe murdurer...even then u get access
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