I'm hoping someone here uses this arrangement and can provide feedback.
My stepson is allotted 28 subsidized sick days per year, which means that when he is absent from daycare, no costs are incurred. Should he be absent above the 28 days, the full daily rate of daycare applies.
In the past, daycare costs were split 50/50 between the parties, however my stepson's mom is now refusing to cover 50% of the costs associated with the daycare absences due to vacation time that the child is with my husband and I.
On a judge's suggestion, she is expecting us to distribute the sick days as follows: 8 days for the child when he becomes ill; 10 days to each parent for vacation time.
This is agreeable to my husband, however my stepson's mom is also demanding that should the child require additional sick days above the allotted 8, each parent shall contribute by one-half-day from their allotted 10 days. This may seem fair in theory, but realistically, it is not, as due to holidays and vacations, my stepson is in our care and absent from daycare for 25-30 days each year. Since my husband is allotted only 10 days to use at his discretion, we are still required to cover the full costs ($35 per day) of the remaining 15-20 absences. It is unrealistic to expect him to help cover additional illnesses only to increase the already high cost of his vacation time. We have informed my stepson's mom that if this is the sort of arrangement she wants, we will required doctor's notes for all absences due to illness in order to properly keep track of sick-days and ensure that the child is actually away due to illness and not because his mom used a sick day to cover an absence when the child was not actually ill. She finds this unreasonable and states that since she doesn't have to provide the school or daycare with doctor's notes, she shouldn't have to provide us with them either.
Any suggestions on how to resolve this issue?
My stepson is allotted 28 subsidized sick days per year, which means that when he is absent from daycare, no costs are incurred. Should he be absent above the 28 days, the full daily rate of daycare applies.
In the past, daycare costs were split 50/50 between the parties, however my stepson's mom is now refusing to cover 50% of the costs associated with the daycare absences due to vacation time that the child is with my husband and I.
On a judge's suggestion, she is expecting us to distribute the sick days as follows: 8 days for the child when he becomes ill; 10 days to each parent for vacation time.
This is agreeable to my husband, however my stepson's mom is also demanding that should the child require additional sick days above the allotted 8, each parent shall contribute by one-half-day from their allotted 10 days. This may seem fair in theory, but realistically, it is not, as due to holidays and vacations, my stepson is in our care and absent from daycare for 25-30 days each year. Since my husband is allotted only 10 days to use at his discretion, we are still required to cover the full costs ($35 per day) of the remaining 15-20 absences. It is unrealistic to expect him to help cover additional illnesses only to increase the already high cost of his vacation time. We have informed my stepson's mom that if this is the sort of arrangement she wants, we will required doctor's notes for all absences due to illness in order to properly keep track of sick-days and ensure that the child is actually away due to illness and not because his mom used a sick day to cover an absence when the child was not actually ill. She finds this unreasonable and states that since she doesn't have to provide the school or daycare with doctor's notes, she shouldn't have to provide us with them either.
Any suggestions on how to resolve this issue?
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