Im so confused.
Am I expecting too much or what? I need a wake up call here...so tell me off with some hard truths!!
My ex pays child support and his income is at 175,000
He receives deductions for work car expenses and travel to visit his son as he lives out of province. So his income is based with my agreement at 150.
Section seven is prorated for child care etc while I work or attend school.
I make 45,000 working 2 jobs.
Obviously our standard of living is different.
In the negotiation for a parenting agreement that we BOTH initialed but he refuses to wrap up. He is garnished for non payment etc....we agreed that he would pay 1200 per yr for activities and we would consult each other etc for anything over that. I would need his permission for any incurring expense after this. I was hoping he would just start a clean slate (esp financially) but in the end wont sign off on anything.
I have asked which activity he supports and which he doesn't to help keep with in his portion and the "cap" of 1200.00. No response.
He doesn't communicate and doesn't bother with much parenting or involvement just shows up for visits.
The activities for the last few years are swim class (350.00), Greek school ($150), music specifically violin (1100.) and karate (700.00).
I pay and enroll and submit the receipt to my ex.
I also cover the added on costs such as camping with his school, mad science club, study skills workshop, any and all afterschool clubs and any out of pocket activities mandatory through the school for excursions etc...
Overall just about 2600.00 per yr.
My ex is classically trained from he conservatory. I have no music skills but my son enjoys it and has been in violin now for 6+ yrs and is 11 yrs old.
I ask for feedback, inform, provide the info and basically budget as best as I could. He doesn't bother and doesn't respond. Once it hit the $1200 I emailed numerous times with no response.
Basically the costs have come to approx. 2600 per yr more or less.
With his portion would be approx. 80% and pays each month the $1200 with child support.
I emailed last week, asking for him to please pay his portion and that I required payment for outstanding of whatever over and above the $1200 for his portion etc. I rather be paid then have to spend money with a lawyer to try to get reimbursed.
We are on myfamilywizard.com and they have account tracking/receipt uploads and the message posts, plus calendar. So everything is uploaded in a timely manner by me.
He replied to my email asking for payment of the outstanding!
He replied that he knows his rights and that he will not be paying his portion or whatever is outstanding and that if I want that money I will have to take him to court to get it and it would be my son losing out bc Im wasting money.
Basically leaving me paying and out of pocket.
This worries me and I am confused. Previously he has thrown that he lives a completely different lifestyle then me. But in reality I am in a better financial position since my debt load is minimal. He has a new wife and child PLUS huge house, 3 cars etc. I am alone with my son and work a second job to help pay these costs...PLUS I pay tuition to a semi private school, uniforms, hot lunches etc.
I was under the impression that he also had an obligation to help with activities and extraordinary expenses such as a new computer that's is needed (hopefully later next yr once I can save up for it).
My lawyer says this isn't an extraordinary expense.
The balance is very tilted here as I am paying the majority of expenses and make much less money plus working 2 jobs to make ends meet. The kicker is that he wont even help pitch in for a kids birthday party for his son.
Am I expecting too much or what? I need a wake up call here...so tell me off with some hard truths!!
My ex pays child support and his income is at 175,000
He receives deductions for work car expenses and travel to visit his son as he lives out of province. So his income is based with my agreement at 150.
Section seven is prorated for child care etc while I work or attend school.
I make 45,000 working 2 jobs.
Obviously our standard of living is different.
In the negotiation for a parenting agreement that we BOTH initialed but he refuses to wrap up. He is garnished for non payment etc....we agreed that he would pay 1200 per yr for activities and we would consult each other etc for anything over that. I would need his permission for any incurring expense after this. I was hoping he would just start a clean slate (esp financially) but in the end wont sign off on anything.
I have asked which activity he supports and which he doesn't to help keep with in his portion and the "cap" of 1200.00. No response.
He doesn't communicate and doesn't bother with much parenting or involvement just shows up for visits.
The activities for the last few years are swim class (350.00), Greek school ($150), music specifically violin (1100.) and karate (700.00).
I pay and enroll and submit the receipt to my ex.
I also cover the added on costs such as camping with his school, mad science club, study skills workshop, any and all afterschool clubs and any out of pocket activities mandatory through the school for excursions etc...
Overall just about 2600.00 per yr.
My ex is classically trained from he conservatory. I have no music skills but my son enjoys it and has been in violin now for 6+ yrs and is 11 yrs old.
I ask for feedback, inform, provide the info and basically budget as best as I could. He doesn't bother and doesn't respond. Once it hit the $1200 I emailed numerous times with no response.
Basically the costs have come to approx. 2600 per yr more or less.
With his portion would be approx. 80% and pays each month the $1200 with child support.
I emailed last week, asking for him to please pay his portion and that I required payment for outstanding of whatever over and above the $1200 for his portion etc. I rather be paid then have to spend money with a lawyer to try to get reimbursed.
We are on myfamilywizard.com and they have account tracking/receipt uploads and the message posts, plus calendar. So everything is uploaded in a timely manner by me.
He replied to my email asking for payment of the outstanding!
He replied that he knows his rights and that he will not be paying his portion or whatever is outstanding and that if I want that money I will have to take him to court to get it and it would be my son losing out bc Im wasting money.
Basically leaving me paying and out of pocket.
This worries me and I am confused. Previously he has thrown that he lives a completely different lifestyle then me. But in reality I am in a better financial position since my debt load is minimal. He has a new wife and child PLUS huge house, 3 cars etc. I am alone with my son and work a second job to help pay these costs...PLUS I pay tuition to a semi private school, uniforms, hot lunches etc.
I was under the impression that he also had an obligation to help with activities and extraordinary expenses such as a new computer that's is needed (hopefully later next yr once I can save up for it).
My lawyer says this isn't an extraordinary expense.
The balance is very tilted here as I am paying the majority of expenses and make much less money plus working 2 jobs to make ends meet. The kicker is that he wont even help pitch in for a kids birthday party for his son.
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