brief history for those who dont know.
ex got me arrested and charged twice on 5 counts with false accusations, and had a third failed attempt with cops, after which contrary to my bail conditions she kept trying to initiate indirect communication, which i continued to deny to participate in because of the bail conditions, she was advised several times via counsel on how to restore direct & indirect communication legally, she chose not to take that option leading me to believe that she was only initiating indirect communication to have my bail voided. the criminal pretrial is in about a month's time.
few days ago on the anniversary of my first arrest her counsel sent me an email stating that the ex now legally wants to restore direct and indirect communication because its in "the best interest of the child". that was a shocker as i wasnt expecting that consent after so long.
next on the same day ex calls two of my friends for a "meeting" (friends have been facilitating access and since have been in constant contact with her) in the meeting she states that she has made grave mistakes against me (*referring to the false charges?) and loves me and wants to make things right and so on.
two days later she calls same friends for another "meeting", they go over a second time and she states the same things again and asks for my number so that she can wish me happy birthday, I had already advised them to never give out my number to avoid any breach of bail, they gave her a number that she can only text on i.e. i dont respond = no breach of bail
third day was my birthday, she calls one of the friends again to the mall and hands him over a big gift bag along with a rose for me saying this is a birthday present for me. friend calls me to accept the gift.
this is where the situation got really tricky. i definitely dont want to send a message that i want continue the fight, but at the same time if i accepted the gift, the crown could argue "he was guilty, he wanted to get out of the situation and hence by accepting the gift he sent her a message that he is ready to make up" hence i told my friend to keep the gift in his care until i can get crim counsel's advise on it.
she called my friend to see if i have accepted the gift and was disappointed that it was still with him.
while the prelim is so close what is the appropriate course of action here? also if i accept the gift, what do i do on her bday which is up in a few days, i mean how would it be looked upon in the crim court if i returned her favor? not such a good idea to send her anything from the criminal matter perspective right?
ex got me arrested and charged twice on 5 counts with false accusations, and had a third failed attempt with cops, after which contrary to my bail conditions she kept trying to initiate indirect communication, which i continued to deny to participate in because of the bail conditions, she was advised several times via counsel on how to restore direct & indirect communication legally, she chose not to take that option leading me to believe that she was only initiating indirect communication to have my bail voided. the criminal pretrial is in about a month's time.
few days ago on the anniversary of my first arrest her counsel sent me an email stating that the ex now legally wants to restore direct and indirect communication because its in "the best interest of the child". that was a shocker as i wasnt expecting that consent after so long.
next on the same day ex calls two of my friends for a "meeting" (friends have been facilitating access and since have been in constant contact with her) in the meeting she states that she has made grave mistakes against me (*referring to the false charges?) and loves me and wants to make things right and so on.
two days later she calls same friends for another "meeting", they go over a second time and she states the same things again and asks for my number so that she can wish me happy birthday, I had already advised them to never give out my number to avoid any breach of bail, they gave her a number that she can only text on i.e. i dont respond = no breach of bail
third day was my birthday, she calls one of the friends again to the mall and hands him over a big gift bag along with a rose for me saying this is a birthday present for me. friend calls me to accept the gift.
this is where the situation got really tricky. i definitely dont want to send a message that i want continue the fight, but at the same time if i accepted the gift, the crown could argue "he was guilty, he wanted to get out of the situation and hence by accepting the gift he sent her a message that he is ready to make up" hence i told my friend to keep the gift in his care until i can get crim counsel's advise on it.
she called my friend to see if i have accepted the gift and was disappointed that it was still with him.
while the prelim is so close what is the appropriate course of action here? also if i accept the gift, what do i do on her bday which is up in a few days, i mean how would it be looked upon in the crim court if i returned her favor? not such a good idea to send her anything from the criminal matter perspective right?
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