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cleanSlate · #21 09-13-2021, 04:05 PM

Rockscan,
I have asked you before and am asking you again.
If you are going to be belligerent don't post in threads I start.
You are definitely the most hostile and condescending person on this board.

Here is the message the very balanced and in control Rockscan objected to:

Quote:

I understand your train of thought but really I am not assuming. When you have 10 years of child care experience with someone and there is history after separation showing they chose not to spend time with their kids....that means something.

If you want to say that I am in danger of being presumptuous or I would look bad in front of a judge for saying that instead of providing an example OK....that would be good advice.

take care.....I am trying not to give them free rent in my head.

I do know for a fact her employer will let her care for the children as do work for them and have both read and been informed of all their policies.

take care.

Brampton33 · #22 09-13-2021, 04:16 PM

Cleanslate: The nice part of this forum is to ask questions on situations from people who have experienced your situation and can either relate or provide advice based on their own experiences. Others, including myself, have been through the trenches. Some of us are well versed in Family Law by virtue of our own experiences.

Listen carefully. If your ex says she needs before/after school care to assist her during her parenting time, your kid(s) will be in before/after school care during her time and you will be asked to pay your share. Be very careful you don't open up a can of worms and demonstrate to a judge you are unable to cooperate with your ex on child-related matters, especially so straight-forward.....you may end up losing more than just the monthly cost of daycare.

cleanSlate · #23 09-13-2021, 04:22 PM

thanks Brampton33....it is always hard to tell what a judge will say....even for lawyers....last time I heard a lawyer say that they were certain, they were wrong.
I am simply looking for the caselaw at this point. Different areas rule differently.

I am not about to easily accept paying $400/month so the ex can have the kid looked after for 10 hours a month in a school program and I would certainly not want to incur a child care expense like that unless I am sure to get it back.

Like Brampton33 also said I also agree I do not want to look unreasonable either way.

So going on....I looked in CANLII but don't seem to be able to find anything ruling one way or the other unless it is against one side that did something outrageous....how far does this have to go back....WFH is relatively new and COVID sure is.

CANLII:
Here is what one judge stated, so is that judge wrong?
"afterschool care is not needed because the mother works from home and can care for the kids" is the only item I have found but it only has "reasons for a decision" for this case. Where is the rest?

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